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Thread: What do you make of my exes response?

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    Originally Posted by charis32
    Well I agree with everyone. I just donít get why he bothered replying when i said you no where to find me if you want to continue the convo but otherwise left it open for him not to respond/ ignore me, which is what he usually does.
    So you don't obsessively bombard him with 20 more e-mails and 50 more texts....or even one more.... Being silent hasn't worked in that you refuse to accept the break up and work on your healing and moving forward. Nobody owes a relationship or "making" things work. It wasn't working for him anymore from his point of view. Respect that and leave him be.

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    He knows I wouldnít obsessively bombard him with emails and all he has to say is Iím not interested in discussing this. Or block me

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    Maybe Iím retarded but to me replying Iím not overwhelmed means he wants to continue conversation

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    Why not take self-respecting action yourself and delete and block him and all his people from all your messaging apps and social media? Done. Then you can move on, start messaging and dating men and stop worrying about his motives or contact. Why does he decide what you want?
    Originally Posted by charis32
    all he has to say is Iím not interested in discussing this. Or block me

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    Originally Posted by charis32
    Maybe Iím retarded but to me replying Iím not overwhelmed means he wants to continue conversation
    Honestly, youíre not wrong.

    There are exes who get an ego boost out of being pinned over and youíre right he could easily block you. Itís kinda like heís the cat lazily playing with the mouse when he gets bored.

    That should not give you any kind of hope though, because itís not a good thing, it comes from a place of complete disrespect.

    I was kinda like you when I was younger, I always had a hard time letting go of relationship and always wanted another chance to fix things, Iíd get treated super badly which what did I expect, exes have no moral obligation to treat you as anything but an ex, ironically very often the exes that allowed such behavior came back after I had began to move on, not because they loved me, but rather because they wanted the attention back. It was never about love or respect though please donít confuse it

    Itís insulting really.

    Try to disengage.

    It will be hard, no doubt but take it one day at a time, next time you get the urge to text him write it out on here, thereís a thread Ď write here instead of contacting your exí itís helped a lot of people. Give it a try.

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    Originally Posted by charis32
    Maybe Iím retarded but to me replying Iím not overwhelmed means he wants to continue conversation
    I think he was mocking you... as in he's not overwhelmed by your antics (thinks they're funny/doesn't take them seriously). This isn't an open invitation to send more texts or call him anymore. For situations like this where you are uncertain what a person means over text messaging (especially conversations with an ex where there's some tenuous history), just don't put yourself in that position. You're coming across like a fool or someone not to be taken seriously. Sorry, OP.

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    Originally Posted by charis32
    He knows I wouldnít obsessively bombard him with emails and all he has to say is Iím not interested in discussing this. Or block me
    He absolutely doesn't know this and your actions speak otherwise....see the multiple e-mails you've sent him..... His curt response did not invite further discussion. He DID dismiss you. He doesn't care about blocking you because he doesn't care about you....you are like an annoying mosquito buzzing around. Neither here nor there. His heart doesn't jump when he sees your number or your e-mail pop up. He doesn't hate you, he doesn't dislike you, he simply no longer cares about you.

    Please for the love of.....stop humiliating yourself, stop contacting him. Move on. You'll thank yourself for that later as you calm down and look back at your behavior.....you really don't want to cringe.....Head up, walk away.

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    No offence, but your comfortable state of denial is reaching its expiration date.

    That said, hopefully sooner rather than later you'll realize that if someone wants you in their life, they'll make room for you and you won't have to fight for a spot.

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    Originally Posted by charis32
    Maybe Iím retarded but to me replying Iím not overwhelmed means he wants to continue conversation
    I don't see why you think "I'm not overwhelmed lol" means he wants to keep talking to you.

    He seems to be laughing at you, though, and laughing at how seriously you still take this. He's sending the message he doesn't really care what you have to say or why you think you should still be together.

    Go find your dignity, girl, and stop contacting him. Your previous threads indicate this was not a good relationship and you have been in denial too long.

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    I know you're hurting, because I am too and it sucks when you're broken up with. I went through the whole texting and emailing regularly thing too. And when he would reply out of politeness, I would take that a sign he wanted to hear from me.
    Heck, when we broke up I begged him to block and delete my number and he refused. I took this as a sign that he still secretly wants to get back with me.
    We mind read when we're hurting. Fact is he just didn't care if he heard from me or not. And that's pure indifference. Hard to get your head around.

    Just don't reply, or contact him and give yourself time to clear your mind. It will help long term. If he contacts you while you're disappeared, then you will know he's not 'done' with communication. But give him the chance to have the breakup he wants. We have to respect their decision ultimately, however painful it is.

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