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    Boyfriend with PTSD

    I am 21 and my boyfriend is 29 . He has PTSD from his childhood from his mother . Lately he has been lashing out and trying to dump me cause his mother is making our relationship difficult . After the last out of talking for two hours to come back to common ground all of a sudden everything is fine and he doesnít want to break up . Lately he has been going it a lot . His family 7 months before we moved out trashed talked me and his dad texted me a nasty text not even being in our place for a couple of days .

    Heís not happy and he keeps going psycho and doesnít know what he wants anymore because of them . He hasnít talked to them much but when he does his mom tryís to manipulate him to come home . They keep saying we know you are stuck in a rock and hard place meaning being moved out with me . This all stemmed from me blocking his mom cause she kept trying to control our relationship and how he saw us . So she could try to get him to stay home .

    I donít know the past 7 months have been very up and down and Iím getting super tired of it . Itís getting hard to bounce back from it all . What do I do ? Iím getting tired of it . I really thought he was the one . Iíd do anything for him .

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    You need to end this. It's simply not working and he has too many issues. He mistreats you and you need the self-respect to leave.

    You are not a doctor, social worker or therapist. Stay away from him and his family. Block and delete him and all his people from all your social media. Dating is not about changing and fixing people and being antagonist toward each other.
    Originally Posted by LadyLantern
    I am 21 and my boyfriend is 29 .
    Heís not happy and he keeps going psycho and doesnít know what he wants anymore because of them.

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    Has he had extensive treatment for his PTSD? If not I would break up until he does. He is still engaging with people who traumatized him without having boundaries.

    Btw. I have PTSD myself.

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    I agree with wiseman2. This guy needs help and you cant provide it.

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    He just started group therapy last week cause I said I had enough and told him I canít fix anything . He said he merely just wanted support . So I said go to group therapy and his therapist found him a resource .

    Everything has been great up to this point . The past two months he like snapped . His mom keeps trying to text him sending him mean msgs and then sending him nice ones . I just donít get it . She was blocked from his phone then his dad convinced him to unblock her

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    Don't inject yourself in their family dynamics. All you need to do is block and delete his family and avoid them. Tell him to talk to his therapists/doctors about his family problems. You would be better off moving on.
    Originally Posted by LadyLantern
    The past two months he like snapped . His mom keeps trying to text him sending him mean msgs and then sending him nice ones. She was blocked from his phone then his dad convinced him to unblock her

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    Youíre probably right about moving on . I invested so much into our relationship . I blocked his family from all my social media .

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    The thing is he canít use you as his emotional punching bag because he let his mom back in his life .

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    I never thought about it that way . He said he attacks our relationship cause itís easy cause nothing is wrong with us .

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    If nothing is wrong with our relationship why not attack other parts of his life ?.

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