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Thread: Should I just leave him alone?

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    You need to stop being so focused on this guy. Try to change your focus. Find other friends, find other hobbies, watch movies, go for walks. But find your own life and not constantly wondering what he's doing or sending silly texts to see if he will message back.

    This guy is not as interested as you want him to be. That's obvious. He is wanting to do other things. He knows how to contact you, he just doesn't want to.

    Let it go, stop chasing.

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    Originally Posted by honeybun35
    hes the one that's unemployed I work all day
    Then, why do you bother with any of this nonsense?

    Do you do anything outside of work that is fulfilling? Have you considered volunteering and getting involved in your community? Do you have a social life: friends, hobbies, activities, etc...?

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    Because Ted texts you back.
    Originally Posted by honeybun35
    and why would I do that

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    So, you are the one who wants to change this FWB into a relationship.

    Have you asked him if he would like to be in a real relationship with you?

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    How long has he been out of work? How does he support himself?

    Why are you still talking to someone who went through your phone?

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    Yea I think hes done with you. My guess is that jealousy you think he had was really just disappointment and a loss of respect for you.

    If he wanted to be with you he would make more of an effort.

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    Originally Posted by maew
    Yea I think hes done with you. My guess is that jealousy you think he had was really just disappointment and a loss of respect for you.

    If he wanted to be with you he would make more of an effort.
    He doesn't sound like any prize.

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    Stop hounding him and become your own independent person. Get a life. Never make a guy your whole life otherwise you're perceived as desperate and insecure. Since he's very busy, get busy with your own life.

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    Do you want him to be your boyfriend? It sounds to me like maybe you both want more than just FWBs but you both suck at talking like adults.

    That's what the core of this situation feels like to me. He is distancing himself because he thinks you're into other people and you can't seem to stop obsessing over him. That's not a FWB dynamic. One or both of you has caught feelings and you both need to figure out (and discuss) what you want from each other. And it may end up that a departure is for the best, but communicate .

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    I'd ask myself at what point I'm willing to outgrow this messy 'fwb' stuff, and decide instead that I'm relationship material. That's the point at which you can speak clearly about what you are looking for with every new guy you meet, and you'll own the discretion to screen out any guy who isn't clear about looking for the same thing.

    FWB is for kids. Consider WHY, and make a better choice.

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