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Thread: Ex boyfriend wants to “take things slow”

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    Apparently you're viewing this situation as, "I can win him over again" while his views are, "What a deal!"

    Respecting yourself can do wonders for your self-esteem, why not give it a try?

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    Trying to understand the mentality of a person who is perfectly okay with an X logging into social media accounts to find messages from other guys. The OP knows full well the X is snooping and its obvious she is okay with it. And probably more than okay with it, she probably likes it. If she didn't, she would of changed her password after the first log in notification and gotten mad about it.
    OP. If your X is logging on to your social media accounts and you are accepting it, its not about taking slow. In your mind you are still dating him. He has you, he has control over you and it seems like you like it.

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    I guess you’re right. I am here for advice however i’m a very indecisive person, i’ll probably start a journal thread

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    And, why don't you respond to our comments? I think that that is disrespectful!

    I have asked you repeatedly what the family issues were, which you NEVER answered?

    I think that we should show you, the same respect that you have shown us.
    I personally think continuously asking someone what their family issues are is annoying. Family issues, i’d like to keep to myself as it is a sensitive topic.

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    Originally Posted by justicegrl
    OP are you here for actual advice or just to vent? If just to vent that is ok, but there is a journal section so maybe best to create one thread in that section and post when you need to vent.

    Venting is good but posters get frustrated when you create different threads asking advice about same issue but then don't follow advice. I am sure you can understand that.

    Good luck to you.
    I guess you’re right. I am here for advice however i’m a very indecisive person, i’ll probably start a journal thread

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    Originally Posted by Ellaho
    I personally think continuously asking someone what their family issues are is annoying. Family issues, i’d like to keep to myself as it is a sensitive topic.
    I was asking to see if it were something substantial, or drama. That's it. We are strangers, so what does it matter!?

    I also think it is "annoying" to ask the same question, over and over.

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    Originally Posted by smackie9
    He's just keeping you at arms length to prevent you from going out with other guys, but has no intention of rekindling your relationship. He's still controlling you, and you are still being a damn fool. Cut him off, change your PW to everything, block delete his number, and if he every contacts you, don't read it or respond.
    Truth. At this point, you're a "side chick" to him.

    Don't you feel that you deserve more than this from a relationship? Don't you think that there's someone out there on this planet of billions of people that will not treat you this way?

    I'm willing to bet that the minute you cut him off, he'll come calling because you're "plan B" to him.

    Do not let him back into your life at this point. This will be very hard but you need to make the decision to do this and stick to it. This means shutting down all means that you both can "check up" on each other electronically. Stay away from mutual friends as well. If you have to interact with them, your social status information is off limits to them.

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