Cheating

[Mjdino]

I am currently pregnant. And the past few months we’ve had some rough patches of fighting. But recently, we’ve better our communication and I thought things were getting better. Yesterday, he went out with his friends to a fight. No big deal. I’m not one to blow him up with texts or stress. When he got home around midnight he said that his friend was coming to pick him up- again nothing I found suspect cause his friend has been having issues with his girl and they talk often. Normally they are only out for half an hour and he was gone for two. Again, not freaking. I fell asleep for an hour heard him come home. And it was off, it was three and he was showering. I drifted asleep and woke up about thirty minutes to go to the bathroom. And noticed that the shower was wet and I was a little more worried. Out of curiosity, I checked his underwear (TMI) and there was blood in the crotch and thigh area, which made me think he maybe had sex with someone on their period as I’ve seen it before with us before. I confronted him about it calmly and he got defensive and said it was gross but we’ve done it before. Now I’m just worried that I over reacted. But I can’t help but feel that I may be right.. thoughts?

[melancholy123]

Well if you are pregnant, you dont have a period, so where did the blood come from? I think this guy had sex with someone else before he came home.

[AviationNut]

I am currently pregnant. And the past few months we’ve had some rough patches of fighting. But recently, we’ve better our communication and I thought things were getting better. Yesterday, he went out with his friends to a fight. No big deal. I’m not one to blow him up with texts or stress. When he got home around midnight he said that his friend was coming to pick him up- again nothing I found suspect cause his friend has been having issues with his girl and they talk often. Normally they are only out for half an hour and he was gone for two. Again, not freaking. I fell asleep for an hour heard him come home. And it was off, it was three and he was showering. I drifted asleep and woke up about thirty minutes to go to the bathroom. And noticed that the shower was wet and I was a little more worried. Out of curiosity, I checked his underwear (TMI) and there was blood in the crotch and thigh area, which made me think he maybe had sex with someone on their period as I’ve seen it before with us before. I confronted him about it calmly and he got defensive and said it was gross but we’ve done it before. Now I’m just worried that I over reacted. But I can’t help but feel that I may be right.. thoughts?

What was his explanation for the blood? Unless there's an obvious injury to the area, I think you already know the answer...

[TeeDee]

Why was cheating your 1st thought? If I found blood in my husband's underwear I would assume he had internal injuries or a urinary tract infection. I wouldn't think he had sex with a menstruating woman.

[Hollyj]

Has he cheated before?

[TeeDee]

If he went to a fight that room was hot & sweaty. If he was up close to the ring, 1st-4th row he may have gotten sweat, blood or spit on him from the fighters. It's really disgusting. Maybe the room was smoky too.

She can't just up & leave the father of her unborn baby based on a paranoid hunch.

[TeeDee]

He went to the fight earlier in the night and got home at midnight. Then went out again after midnight with his friend, gone for two hours. And the blood.

Something happened, don't let him gaslight you.

I'm not saying she shouldn't get to the bottom of this but because all of this can be explained for reasons other than cheating I think she can't jump to conclusions, especially while she's hormonal & not thinking straight. Paranoia is not a reason to give up on a relationship. A UTI is far more probable then an affair.

[Hollyj]

I'm not saying she shouldn't get to the bottom of this but because all of this can be explained for reasons other than cheating I think she can't jump to conclusions, especially while she's hormonal & not thinking straight. Paranoia is not a reason to give up on a relationship. A UTI is far more probable then an affair.

I think that the blood is pretty clear evidence of cheating.

[ThatwasThen]

I confronted him about it calmly and he got defensive and said it was gross but we’ve done it before.

How does THAT explain how the blood got in his underwear??? ... and no, he did not get it from the fight unless he was sitting there watching with just his tighty whities on. That is the most implausible excuse he could ever give you and if you believed it then I would question your own better judgement about the difference between "trust" and "blind trust."

Just how close is he to this "friend?"

One further thought: If by that quote above he meant you and he had sex before he went out then that could be your blood. How far along in your pregnancy are you? Did you two have sex before he went out?

[boltnrun]

He got blood from one of the fighters on his underwear? Was he flashing the fighters? That's a real stretch.

I've had multiple UTIs and not one time did it result in blood on my underwear.

It's time for a calm sit down talk.