Cheating

[Mjdino]

He was excited when we found out. And it seems that excitement has faded now. So maybe that is a factor

[Mjdino]

We’ve been together a year and I’ve known him for years since we went to school together.

[boltnrun]

We’ve been together a year and I’ve known him for years since we went to school together.

Oh, so you got pregnant right away. Going to school together and "knowing" him isn't the same as being a committed couple. Add in a baby (you didn't answer if the baby was planned or a "surprise" so I presume it was unplanned) right off the bat and he's apparently feeling some kind of way.

But he should talk to you about it instead of having tantrums or reacting immaturely. And you should be secure enough to not feel like checking his underwear is something you need to do. If not, a serious talk and counseling is called for.

[Wiseman2]

Are you getting appropriate prenatal care? You need to discuss this privately and confidentially with your doctor and get tested for blood-borne and sexually transmitted diseases. You could be endangering your unborn child and yourself. Talk to your doctor asap, particularly since this keeps happening.

At this point you do not know what his extracurricular activities entail. He's effectively shut you down and you are overdoing it with the 'cool gf' nonsense. Move out and go live with your family until you are safe and have answers from a doctor, not excuses from a liar who's out prowling at night..

For all you know he could be raping women or having male-male encounters. Get To A Doctor!

Depending on the amount of blood found, I'd have to wonder if he was using protection.

[ThatwasThen]

We haven’t had sex in months. He won’t touch me. I’ve tried and he won’t. So no we didn’t have sex. He said he went to his buddies house and had to walk home. He tells me his penis is “dry” because of how much he’s working and having to shower. He doesn’t complain about pain.

You know this is a bunch of BS. The question now is what are you going to do about it or are you just going to do nothing and pretend its all good?... which of course is your prerogative regardless of what we would do if in your shoes.

[Mjdino]

Yeah I’ve been getting proper prenatal care from th get go

[melancholy123]

I'm not saying she shouldn't get to the bottom of this but because all of this can be explained for reasons other than cheating I think she can't jump to conclusions, especially while she's hormonal & not thinking straight. Paranoia is not a reason to give up on a relationship. A UTI is far more probable then an affair.

If the guy really didnt do anything wrong, and there's a good reason for blood in his underwear, he should tell the pregnant girlfriend what happened! The silence is deafening.

[boltnrun]

Plus, I was not delusional or "not thinking straight" while I was pregnant. Not sure why that belief is being perpetuated, that pregnant women are "hormonal" and therefore irrational.

[quark]

For all you know he could be raping women

This was unfortunately my first thought when you said blood in the underwear. You deserve better explanation for that. What friend was he out with? I know it's not bulletproof but can they confirm?

[MissCanuck]

The blood is very suspect.

it didn't somehow magically migrate from a boxer in the ring into his underwear, so please discount that ridiculous theory. It is also likely not a UTI.

Given what you have said about the lack of a sex life between you two now, and his odd explanation for the blood being there - my strong suspicion is that yes, he had sex with someone else while he was gone.