Does anyone have experience with family chemo anger?

[Cherylyn]

Yes, it's very common. My best friend's father experienced chemo anger as did my other friend's husband. Their chemo and other meds make them feel horrifically fatigued, nauseous and other excruciatingly painful adverse effects.

It's very hard to remain patient, supportive and compassionate during these times. I'm sorry. Just hang in there because your dad is trying hard to survive.

What helps some is to give each other SPACE.

Unfortunately, many times patients are just living on borrowed time during chemo and life is shortened. As hard as it is to do, appreciate every second with him including his angry times. Someday you'll miss him terribly.

[boltnrun]

Money to pay people to do basic chores isn't always there. That's usually why family members step up.

I was taking a day off from work to take my brother to his surgery and bring him home, then take care of him for a day or so. My boss told me I should hire him a taxi instead. Um, the taxi driver will not help him inside, put him to bed, pick up his prescriptions and check in in him every hour or so. Uncompassionate ass.

But, you do need time for yourself. It's absolutely vital that you get a break several times a week.

[maew]

My very best friend just went through treatment for leukaemia and chemo brain is a thing, as is the pain from the cancer itself, side effects from the other meds, people around them over or under functioning, etc.

I was there a lot for my bff and at times it was very difficult as she was totally not herself at all.

You need to remember to take care of yourself too and the idea of an outside support group as is getting some additional help for him is a really good one.

[jellybean2018]

Thanks for the emapthy and understanding... I have joined a new forum and although got a lot of sound advice (which im grateful for and thanks for opening up and sharing)...some folk in here just seem to like to be antagonistic and a bit harsh with their words. Fair play... If thats how they wish to spend their time then up to them. You open up a can of worms when reaching out on forums gotta take the good with bad i guess! Hence i guess the referral to more relevant forums and support networks.

Thanks again for the links and good advice ❤️🙏