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Thread: Was I wrong for sharing that post with a former fwb?

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    Was I wrong for sharing that post with a former fwb?

    My fwb of now went through my phone and found the name of someone I still talk to.He made a post on Facebook
    and used my friend's name on the post. I did share the post with my friend to see what he thinks. Even he said that he must have went through my phone. He also said to me he know you be talking to me. Me and former fwb are still friends. We actually known each other for 29 yrs. Even when I was married we still talked only as friends.I only showed him the post to see if he'd think the same thing I thought and I was right. He knew it was about him.


    Thoughts and opinions please.

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    Here we go again.

    You just posted this in another thread the other day, didn't you?

    There seems to be a lot of this going on lately...

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    Why is it important if they know about or post about each other?

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    what was the question ? I am asking was I wrong for telling the other guy about that post. I don't recall asking that question

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    It's not about each other . I am asking was it a good idea that I shared it with the person that was mentioned in the post. It's my situation so I need to know. What do you mean why is it important. Really???

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    There is not wrong or right in this really.

    From the bleacher seats what I see is a person (you) who enjoys both stirring the pot, having the pot stirred, and who seeks out like-minded souls as friends, FWBs, and FWBs-turned-friends.

    One FWB is jealous of a former FWB, and handles that in a way (snooping, maudlin FB posting) befitting of a tween. Pot stirred. Your response to that is, well, also tween-like: creating threads on the internet, sharing it with the former FWB, and probably enjoying the dramatic buzz of talking about all that together over messages that, as history shows, the current FWB will read and react to. Stirred pot meets stirred pot meets stirred pot.

    This gives you something you enjoy. Cool. Enjoy it. Nothing "wrong" with doing things we like doing. Seems like the dudes enjoy it on the same level, so no one is being played.

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    I've asked this on your other threads about this situation. Are you the one who wants this FWB to turn into a relationship?

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    Here are the questions Id be asking in your shoes:

    Why am I still interested in an FWB who is snooping through my phone instead of losing interest after he snooped? Why am I interested in a FWB who is shaming me and my friend on social media?

    Do I want my FWB to be my boyfriend? Is it fair to me to keep pretending otherwise? Or do I just enjoy him as a FWB who wants ME to be his girlfriend? Is that fair to him?

    Or do I just like drama? The drama that comes with being called honeybun when things are spicy and my real name when things are chilly? Did I enjoy the snooping and the FB post as much as I enjoyed the sex? Can I be okay with accepting all that about myself?

    Start with those. Answer them and youll have your wrongs and rights, on your terms.

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    Originally Posted by honeybun35
    It's not about each other . I am asking was it a good idea that I shared it with the person that was mentioned in the post. It's my situation so I need to know. What do you mean why is it important. Really???
    I do not think this was a good idea. You are creating a bunch of unnecessary drama about a social media post and escalating this into a situation that could have been dealt with directly with your FWB.

    Edited to add: If you had a hope that you would move into a relationship with your FWB... this behavior is going to destroy any chance you had of making that happen.

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    I think you're using your phone, social media and your fwbs all wrong. Date outside of your social media and don't add any new fwbs to your friends list.

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