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Thread: Soon to be fiance wearing her ex's wedding band

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    I have been divorced for 5 years, but I still have my wedding ring because I chose it and I think it's beautiful. If it would fit on the another finger I would wear it and it would mean absolutely nothing to me. My former husband was a liar and when I look at the ring it doesn't bring forth feelings of wishing I was still with him, nor of fond memories. I simply look at it and think it's a nice ring and your partner probably does the same.

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    Exactly. I wear a ring my ex-bf gave me. I picked it out. It's just a band with 3 diamonds. It was to be my engagement/wedding band. He cheated. (basically the only way he could get rid of me!) I wore it on my right hand...until I gained a few pounds. Now wear it on my ring finger...on my left hand. No biggy. It was 10 years ago! My mom's wedding band is on my left hand middle finger. Only rings I wear. The ring I had when I was married is thrown in a drawer somewhere!!!! lol

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    We talked more about the situation and she agreed to sell the ring.

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    Originally Posted by Mobywhale
    We talked more about the situation and she agreed to sell the ring.
    Bravo for chatting about it with her. Communication is a beautiful thing.

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    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    Bravo for chatting about it with her. Communication is a beautiful thing.
    She was reluctant about it but said she would if it would make me more comfortable.

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    That's sad. Tell her not to sell it. Never be this controlling.
    Originally Posted by Mobywhale
    She was reluctant about it but said she would if it would make me more comfortable.

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    I agree with Wiseman. She shouldn't have to sell it. It's HER ring....she picked it out....it means ZERO to her regarding her ex. She isn't selling it because she WANTS to....she's selling it to make YOU happy! Let it go....she should be able to keep her darn ring.....

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    Just curious OP...

    Would you get upset if she liked to dine at a restaurant that she frequented with an ex?

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    Originally Posted by Mobywhale
    We talked more about the situation and she agreed to sell the ring.
    noooo.
    If she decides to sell it on her own after you marry, that's one thing, but for her to agree to sell it because you are insecure is wrong. Flat out.
    what if you decide to not propose? What if you get cold feet because your last relationship ended just as you were about to get engaged. Its something she should decide on her own -- or decide to keep forever and tuck away.

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    Originally Posted by Mobywhale
    She was reluctant about it but said she would if it would make me more comfortable.
    That's absolutely a crying shame. Its one thing if she chooses not to wear it because it makes you uncomfortable? but sell it? I hope this is not a sign of the control to come from you. you have GOT to get your insecurities under control or you won't end up being married to her or it will be a short one

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