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Thread: I'm in a (kind of) long distance relationship and I'm finding it difficult.

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    I'm in a (kind of) long distance relationship and I'm finding it difficult.

    So myself and my boyfriend have been going out for over 6 months (it got serious quite quickly which we are both happy about). We met in college, and lived about 10mins away from eachother, making it very easy to meet etc. However, since we have both finished college now and moved home (we live 2hrs away from eachother) we can only see eachother at the weekends. My boyfriend works Mon-Fri, where as I am still working a shift work job, meaning i very rarely get a full weekend off. My boyfriend is the best in the world and will drive to see me even if its just for an evening in between my shifts, but we never get to do proper things together eg. go away for weekends. As I have worked in my job for 4 years and rarely requested weekends off, I mentioned it to my manager, but it has made no difference. I guess I'm just finding it tough not knowing from one week to the next when I'll see my boyfriend, and I feel like we're missing out on the important bonding couples should be doing.

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    I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months. We met in college and got on immediately. College finished for Summer and we now live 2hrs apart, both with jobs. I have 2 jobs and I always rearrange my plans so we can meet up, but i always have to work around what days he has off, which usually is okay.

    Is this a different boyfriend than the one you posted about in 2016?

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    Well...

    You have both finished college and moved back home, and you say you are working a shift job?

    1) If you have a college degree, get a regular M-F 9-5 job
    2) You should be looking for a job where he lives
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    3) He should be looking for a job where you live

    Yes, at your age you should be spending weekends together.

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    So now that you have finished college, what are your plans as far as getting a job within your field? Is this job something you see yourself being at for a long time? What are the boyfriend's job prospects?

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    Yes I am currently looking for jobs using my degree, and I'm focusing on the area and surrounding areas where my boyfriend lives as there are loads of jobs in my field (there isn't many opportunities in science in my area anyways). My boyfriend has got a great job using his degree and has no plans to leave, which is completely understandable. I guess I just need to be patient and hope everything falls into place?

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    Thank you for your good advice and quick reply :)

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    Based on your reply, I think it will just take some time. Try to be patient. Seeing your guy on weekends only is pretty normal. I dated someone once that lived closer (an hour) and we still only saw each other on weekends. It forced us to compromise on communication style and it resulted in us having a more honest and open relationship. We didn't work out, but it wasn't because of the distance! You can make it work. It sucks for now, but "now" is just temporary. :)

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    yes different boyfriend. Its amazing how things change in three years

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    Thank you so much for your reassurance and kind words. :)

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    Originally Posted by Stressed123
    yes different boyfriend. Its amazing how things change in three years
    But you stated you finished college in the summer of 2016

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