Creating more boundaries and disentangling my life from hers

[Batya33]

We both have a great love of horror movies none of my other friends do even my husband despises it. And I hate his choice of movies so we never go to the movies together .

I go to movies alone -is that not comfortable for you?

[Hollyj]

We both have a great love of horror movies none of my other friends do even my husband despises it. And I hate his choice of movies so we never go to the movies together .

Look into a horror movie Meet up.

Stop making excuses. These are not reasons to keep someone like this in your life.

[smackie9]

Well you can look at it as her being more of an acquaintance, rather than a "friend". Just change some of the expectations that come with a true friendship to "we just hang out". Is that where you kinda want to go with this?

[~Seraphim ~]

Not really. By the time all the kids are gone from my house at 5:30 in the evening . They enter my house at 6:30 in the morning . Basically I eat clean up and go to bed . On the weekends I am deep cleaning the playroom ,buying groceries for the daycare ,spending some time with my husband ,singing at church and being at Mass. I am also president of our local Catholic Women’s League. Plus my husband and I have ageing and frail parents . At this point I’m so busy I barely have time to breathe.

I don't think you should continue with a user friend because you friend network is getting smaller.

Do you have any free time to do new activities to meet people?

[~Seraphim ~]

Nope. Creeps me out.

I go to movies alone -is that not comfortable for you?

[~Seraphim ~]

I could try. I live in a little dinky Doo town so I’m not sure what kind of meet ups there are .

Look into a horror movie Meet up.

Stop making excuses. These are not reasons to keep someone like this in your life.

[~Seraphim ~]

I think so.

Well you can look at it as her being more of an acquaintance, rather than a "friend". Just change some of the expectations that come with a true friendship to "we just hang out". Is that where you kinda want to go with this?

[Hollyj]

Not really. By the time all the kids are gone from my house at 5:30 in the evening . They enter my house at 6:30 in the morning . Basically I eat clean up and go to bed . On the weekends I am deep cleaning the playroom ,buying groceries for the daycare ,spending some time with my husband ,singing at church and being at Mass. I am also president of our local Catholic Women’s League. Plus my husband and I have ageing and frail parents . At this point I’m so busy I barely have time to breathe.

Can't you make new friends through church and the Catholic League?

[~Seraphim ~]

I have friends there. They are also 80 and would drop dead if I asked them to a horror movie.

Can't you make new friends through church and the Catholic League?

[~Seraphim ~]

The town I live in is a lot of military retirees over 70 and very young families . And unfortunately one of the highest teen mother rates in the whole country .