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Thread: Therapist disagreement. Was I In the Wrong ?

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    Originally Posted by Tinydance
    Yeah sorry I didn't mean anything bad but just that maybe some thinking and analysing what the therapist was doing was needed because he's so unprofessional and shady. Like even telling about the colleague at work which was meant to be completely confidential information! And taking advantage of vulnerable clients by pressuring them to cover for him on eBay! SO WRONG
    No worries. I wasn't sure. I wasn't too thrilled to read about the unethical behaviour either. In my view, it endangers and dehumanizes the client/therapist relationship. It sounds traumatic and I hope she can open up about it if she feels the need to in her future sessions with a new therapist and still remain neutral or balanced in her view or motivation in bettering herself as she says.

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    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    No worries. I wasn't sure. I wasn't too thrilled to read about the unethical behaviour either. In my view, it endangers and dehumanizes the client/therapist relationship. It sounds traumatic and I hope she can open up about it if she feels the need to in her future sessions with a new therapist and still remain neutral or balanced in her view or motivation in bettering herself as she says.
    Well no therapists I've seen before acted like this so most therapists actually are professional and can be trusted. Also the therapist was manipulating her by supposedly doing supportive things for her and then saying she has to put up with his rudeness and bad schedule in return. No she doesn't! In my work if a client is late, I'll let them get away with it sometimes if they're unwell, etc. But that doesn't mean then I'll be late and say: "Oh, but I let you be late a few times so you have to accept it". That is not how it works!! A therapist is meant to be supportive anyway because it's their JOB. They have to act supportive and nice because they get paid for it. It doesn't mean the patients owe them anything in return like putting up with their BS. They are spending their money on a quality, professional service and that's what they should be getting. Not this shady business.

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    He's the one who suggested you leave a that toxic abusive relationship that you would prefer to stay in? Replied in one of your other multiple threads about how you dislike this therapist: [Register to see the link]

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    Originally Posted by summablairr
    I feel like I'm a horrible person and hurt someone who's helped though hard times and that wasn't my intention. I just need some help. Please help me. I just want to be a better person.
    You are not a horrible person.

    It doesn't sound like it was a healthy relationship, especially at the end when he acted like you owed him something besides money.

    I think you absolutely did the right thing in moving on.

    Give this some time and I think you will start to feel better.

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    It sounds like your therapist was hiding the sales, so that he did not have to report for his taxes, which is illegal and unethical.



    It's was highly unprofessional to discuss your colleague with you.

    You were right to feel as you did with the scheduling. Very messy!

    I think that the relationship with this guy is inappropriate and unprofessional on many levels. I am happy you found someone new!

    He sounds awful. He should be reported.

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    He's a poor excuse for a therapist, I'm sorry, but he is.

    He should never let his personal feelings get involved and he crossed many boundaries with you. Totally unprofessional and shouldn't be counselling anyone.

    This wasn't your fault. You are/were the patient and you were dealing with issues. This is his fault. He really should be reported.

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    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    Is there something specific you're quoting my post for or are you upset in general about malpractice in the workplace?

    She switched therapists or is about to switch therapists. I think that's commendable and says enough about how she views moving forward. She's expressed she has mental health issues surrounding extreme anxiety. I'm not sure it's a healthy choice for her to be dwelling on the past. She should be acknowledging it and putting it in perspective and keeping her views balanced and intact regarding the use of therapy for herself in the long run.
    Agree.

    Also pay attention to the details people.

    Work place is abusive, ex boyfriend abusive, therapist abusing his power.

    Is she just a very unlucky girl or is she giving us her interpretation of how she views the world.

    She fully admits her mental health struggles, to blindly take the word of someone who states this as gospel and going to extreme labels isnít exactly wise in my humble opinion.

    I found what she said her therapist told her to be telling:

    He messaged me back saying how relationships are reciprocal and brought up how he's helped me in the past and how he only got in return was me saying it was an inconvience and that he didn't want to continue working with me anymore and "good luck."
    As well as the timing.

    Itís best to let it go and move forward with another therapist not dwelling on the past, bashing him is unnecessary, itís a waste of time, itís over and done with.

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    Originally Posted by figureitout23
    Agree.

    Also pay attention to the details people.

    Work place is abusive, ex boyfriend abusive, therapist abusing his power.

    Is she just a very unlucky girl or is she giving us her interpretation of how she views the world.

    She fully admits her mental health struggles, to blindly take the word of someone who states this as gospel and going to extreme labels isnít exactly wise in my humble opinion.

    I found what she said her therapist told her to be telling:



    As well as the timing.

    Itís best to let it go and move forward with another therapist not dwelling on the past, bashing him is unnecessary, itís a waste of time, itís over and done with.
    The Ebay thing was really unethical.

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    Hi summerblair,

    I agree your therapist has acted unethically and unprofessionally. The therapist/patient relationship is a professional one, and the reciprocation for his helping you is payment. IMO, any extraneous relationships, like employing you, or socialising with you and family, is a huge risk to the effeciacy of the professional relationship, and, depending on the therapist's professional qualifications and memberships, may be a breach of their code of ethics. I think the situation you describe is an example of why.

    I also agree that this experience may be a good topic to discuss with your next therapist. Maybe you have some issues putting up appropriate boundaries, both emotional and actual? Not saying this is your fault, but maybe looking at what you can do to avoid getting overly entangled is a good idea.

    In any case, good luck with the new therapist and with everything in general,

    T

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