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    Asking Her Out (kinda)

    Ok, so a little context. I live in Australia so the schooling system goes from Kindergarten to Prep to Grade 1-12 and once 12 is finished we are done. In our school year we have 4 terms (usually 9-10 weeks long) and 2 semesters (generally From January 25th to November 25th). So I am 17 and in Grade 12, my final year, and am approaching the end of Term 3. In term 4, most high schools typically have an End of Year Formal - the Australian equivalent of America's Homecoming - where you have the option of taking a date, and your parents if you want, but not having parents means that I'll be going alone unless I either get a girlfriend or find a girl to ask. Now I don't have a problem with finding a girl, I already know a cool chick who I wanna take who isn't in my class. The problem I am having is thinking of a way to ask her that doesn't seem to come off as "wanna be my gf?" but that still conveys the message of me wanting her to come to formal with me.

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    You: "Hey, Martha, are you planning on going to the end-of-year formal?"
    Martha: "No"
    You: "Why don't we go together?"

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    Ok, sorry I should have clarified. Unlike Homecoming which allows multiple classes or America's equivalent of Grade levels, Australian Senior Formal's are for Grade 12's only. The girl I want to ask is in Grade 11 and thus wouldn't be planning to go to formal.

    Me: "Hey, Martha, are you planning on going to the end-of-year formal?"
    Martha: "No, I'm not grade 12!" *proceeds to laugh at me for being very stupid*

    It is really stupid that we only do 1 grade level but I just have to deal with it.

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    Originally Posted by SarahLancaster
    You: "Hey, Martha, are you planning on going to the end-of-year formal?"
    Martha: "No"
    You: "Why don't we go together?"
    I just re-read my reply and realised it might have sounded a bit rude, sorry if it came across that way.

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    Why not just ask her if she wants to go to the dance with you?

    You: "Hey, Martha? Want to go to the dance with me?"

    That's not asking her to be your gf, so you don't need to worry. Are you interested in her romantically, or just interested in going as pals?

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    Originally Posted by bluecastle
    Why not just ask her if she wants to go to the dance with you?

    You: "Hey, Martha? Want to go to the dance with me?"

    That's not asking her to be your gf, so you don't need to worry. Are you interested in her romantically, or just interested in going as pals?
    Good point. I am only on here to get an idea of what I might say, but I guess what you just said is pretty much it. I don't think of her romantically but it's not like she's in the friend zone. I just know she is a cool, mature girl who I think I would have a lot of fun with at the formal. Thanks

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    Ask her to the dance. It doesn't mean you're bf/gf, it means it's a date. It's like Prom in the US. A date.
    Originally Posted by Duck539
    I already know a cool chick who I wanna take who isn't in my class. The problem I am having is thinking of a way to ask her that doesn't seem to come off as "wanna be my gf?"

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    If you know her know her, I don't see what the issue is. Just be yourself and ask her to go with you to the formal. Reference the formal part.

    If you are getting to know her or don't know if she is even intending on going to the formal, ask her what she thinks about things like that and go from there. Have a loose conversation about it. You can also ask her if she would be open to the idea of going to the formal with you once she expresses some interest or curiosity.

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    Just say "Hey I need a date for the dance, want to come with me?"

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    Yep. In the US everyone wants to go to Prom in high school so you need a date. It's not even an indicator of more, although it could be. Just ask. Remember the good ones get asked first/early so get cracking 😄
    Originally Posted by smackie9
    Just say "Hey I need a date for the dance, want to come with me?"

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