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Thread: I have a huge crush on a coworker, but i'm married

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    It is nor just the flirting, he is very fun, has a lot of friends, easy going like me, which is so opposite to my husbund.

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    Originally Posted by MyTime007
    It is nor just the flirting, he is very fun, has a lot of friends, easy going like me, which is so opposite to my husbund.
    So you plan to dump your husband for this man who has no boundaries and no morals regarding the sanctity of marriage?

    Don't be surprised if he treats you poorly. You already know he has either poor or no morals, yet you're still infatuated.

    What is it about a man with no sense of right or wrong that you find so appealing?

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    Originally Posted by MyTime007
    It is nor just the flirting, he is very fun, has a lot of friends, easy going like me, which is so opposite to my husbund.
    I don't even consider trading my car in when I run across the latest model with more bells and whistles. Your comment above sounds Soooooooooooooo shallow!

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    I really not even in my dreams plan to dump my husband for this man, I just can't explain how this crush happened, and how did I get to this point

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    Originally Posted by MyTime007
    I really not even in my dreams plan to dump my husband for this man, I just can't explain how this crush happened, and how did I get to this point
    ...face palm...

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    Originally Posted by MyTime007
    I really not even in my dreams plan to dump my husband for this man, I just can't explain how this crush happened, and how did I get to this point
    Stop the flirting, stop the one on one alone time with him and stop the texting.

    Then work on your marriage. Make fun plans with your husband. Make it a point to tell him you love him. All that time and energy you're spending on Immoral Work Guy, redirect to your husband and marriage.

    This happened because you lost your focus on your marriage and husband. Get it back.

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    Originally Posted by MirrorKnight
    Where is your sense of responsibility to your husband, family and child?

    What happened to wedding vows?
    They've left the building because OP you are being driven emotion, not by any sense of responsibility or integrity.

    Look, I firmly believe, even in long term relationships and marriage, there will be others we become attracted to.

    What's important is that you do not act on that attraction, in any way shape or form, you squelch it.

    You have made a commitment to be married, you have a child for goodness sake, start exercising some integrity and honoring the commitment you made, before this attraction escalates.

    If there are issues in your marriage, needs not being met, then communicate that to your husband and seek counseling if necessary.
    Last edited by katrina1980; 08-26-2019 at 10:51 AM.

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    Originally Posted by MyTime007
    I really not even in my dreams plan to dump my husband for this man, I just can't explain how this crush happened, and how did I get to this point
    So what is your intention here, exactly?

    Have a night in bed with this man, or?

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    That is the problem, I dont know what I want and where im going right now. I like him so much but I know it is the wrong thing.

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    Originally Posted by MyTime007
    That is the problem, I dont know what I want and where im going right now. I like him so much but I know it is the wrong thing.
    You decide what you value more, the frivolous attention of another man (and yes it is frivolous and most likely has nothing to do with you - it's his ego as you are 'unavailable' and as such pulling you is a huge ego boost) OR your own integrity and sense of responsibility to your husband and child.

    My god you are acting like some sort of victim who has no control over herself; get your shyt together and start behaving like a grown up for heaven's sake.

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