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Thread: Is she testing me/trying to make me jealous, or just not interested?

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    Is she testing me/trying to make me jealous, or just not interested?

    So this girl and I were friends for a year..we almost started hanging out alone but but it became a mess..she had a bf...I backed off, then she messaged me asking how I was. I noticed she broke up with her bf so I said we should hang out...she said she was going on vacation but wanted to hang out when she got back...I told her let me know when she gets back and well plan something...that was 3 weeks ago...I texted her yesterday...she never texted back but then showed up to my work with another guy...they didnt seem particularly interested in each other and she didn't say hi to me or anything. Seemed very odd she would come right into my work after ignoring me...it felt more like a test to see if I'd get jealous..or am I reading into it?

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    It seems a bit small-minded and petty to do such a thing. If you suspect she's even a bit like that, that's not very attractive. I think it's a better idea to stay away from negative thoughts like that and move forwards. You didn't mention what you think of her - whether she's someone you'd want to date seriously or whether she's just someone you might see casually. If you're just wondering outloud about her as a person, my answer is that she's not interested and don't dwell on this at all. There are plenty of other people to meet.

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    Let it go. At best this was always and still is in the friendzone. Don't waste your time on her if you want a gf. Stop prowling her social media.
    Originally Posted by drivenfuture
    she had a bf.
    I noticed she broke up with her bf so I said we should hang out.
    she never texted back but then showed up to my work with another guy.
    she didn't say hi to me or anything.

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    For all intents and purposes, she's not acting like someone who is interested in you what with bringing all these men around.

    I think you're trying to find a hidden message but I think it's pretty basic, if she's not with you, she's not interested.

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    Originally Posted by drivenfuture
    she didn't say hi to me or anything. Seemed very odd she would come right into my work after ignoring me...it felt more like a test to see if I'd get jealous..or am I reading into it?
    Sounds to me like the guy she was with wanted to go shop at your workplace , she didnít acknowledge you , so quite clearly you are NOT friends.
    Why do YOU think you are? And why did you not acknowledge her???? If she is a so called friend?

    Your post doesnít make sense. Tell us the real story?

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    I don't think she's trying to make you jealous, OP.

    I think she's just plain not interested and doesn't really care what you think of her bringing another guy around you. If anything, it's a rather indirect message that she has someone else on her radar and you would be best to stop contacting her.

    EDIT: This woman? [Register to see the link] Yes, you would be best to drop any notion of being with her. She's not into the way you are into her.

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    You just wanted to have sex with her, right?

    You're expending a lot of thought on someone you just want to "do". Surely there are other women you can have casual flings with.

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    I would have been interested in a relationship, but last month I didnt know my future...i told her I was probly moving to florida... but since then plans changed and I'll still be living in the same city. I feel like I dont know her well but as far as personality I like her but behavior wise actually has been turning me off quite a bit lately. She usually texts me when another pretty girl comments on my facebook.

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    You just wanted to have sex with her, right?

    You're expending a lot of thought on someone you just want to "do". Surely there are other women you can have casual flings with.
    What did the OP say that would elicit such a response? Really, enlighten me, a guy mentions nothing about anything sexual and then your question comes out of the blue.

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    Originally Posted by drivenfuture
    So this girl and I were friends for a year..we almost started hanging out alone but but it became a mess..she had a bf...I backed off, then she messaged me asking how I was. I noticed she broke up with her bf so I said we should hang out...she said she was going on vacation but wanted to hang out when she got back...I told her let me know when she gets back and well plan something...that was 3 weeks ago...I texted her yesterday...she never texted back but then showed up to my work with another guy...they didnt seem particularly interested in each other and she didn't say hi to me or anything. Seemed very odd she would come right into my work after ignoring me...it felt more like a test to see if I'd get jealous..or am I reading into it?
    Man, ghost her and keep it moving. If she gets smart, tell her that you'll take night classes in high order mathematics if you want to get tested.

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