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    Hi everyone 😁 So I kinda have a problem. My friend has a boyfriend for a few months now. And we often go out with our other friends to club, parties etc. But this one time everyone had to leave earlier and I was going to sleep at her house so I stayed alone with them. And all the time he was making these weird sexual jokes including me. He even mentioned a threesome a few times. And all that was in front of her. She got a little bit mad but he said that he was 'just joking'. Since then, whenever I go out with them (which is less often) he's making similar jokes, looking at me, commenting on my clothes and it is making me feel SO uncomfortable. I don't want to tell her anything about it bc what if I'm just making a big deal about it. Am I?

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    He does want a threesome with you. Failing that, he's happy to cheat on your friend with you. He might even be willing to dump her for you since he's probably a bit bored of her.

    If you tell your friend about it however, chances are she will blame you for seducing him somehow, even if you are only trying to help.

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    Have you firmly told him you're not interested in any kind of sexual activity with him (or the both of them) and asked him to stop making those jokes because they make you uncomfortable?

    If you won't tell him to stop he won't stop. Simple.

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    It's a good idea to be clear you are uncomfortable and clarify what you are not comfortable with going forward. Unwanted behaviour like that can turn into sexual harassment. Pay attention to your emotions and what they are telling you.

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    Avoid them. He sounds like he's not "just joking"...and a real creep.She knows he's an ass but for some reason she tolerates it. You need to stop hanging out with them.
    Originally Posted by Ines123
    He even mentioned a threesome a few times. She got a little bit mad but he said that he was 'just joking'. Since then, whenever I go out with them (which is less often) he's making similar jokes, looking at me, commenting on my clothes.

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    Don't let any man toy with you like this. You point blank say: I don't find that form of joking funny, so I'm asking you to stop.

    If your friend asks you to hang out with them, tell her you prefer to do things with her one on one. She already knows he's a jerk and puts up with him so obviously she has a low self esteem. You can either be honest with her or not as far as to why you'd prefer not to be around him. anymore.

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    Your friend needs to step up and tell him that is inappropriate. But it sounds like she is not going to, so you need to. Just say "Dude, you are crossing the line. Gross. Don't bring it up again."
    If he doesn't stop, I would stop hanging out with them. He sounds like a creep.

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    Tell him very directly to knock it off, OP.

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    Originally Posted by MissCanuck
    Tell him very directly to knock it off, OP.
    Yes, I agree. Without apology. "Your comments about my body and about sex are making me feel uncomfortable. Please stop."

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    Thank you all so much. I actually did tell him to stop before but he was like "Oh God I'm just teasing you" 🙄 I'll just avoid him even more, and her too if it continues

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