Facebook share
LinkedIn share
Google plus share
Twitter plus share
Give Advice
Ask For Advice
Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12
Results 11 to 19 of 19

Thread: Man doesnít want relationship but talks about having a baby with me

  1. #11
    Platinum Member ThatwasThen's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Location
    Central Canada
    Posts
    13,712
    Gender
    Female
    Get yourself on some other form of birth control besides him pulling out and wearing condoms you have to protect yourself from turds like him. Is he a Rastafarian or something and is raised to believe in his religion that he has to spread his seed.

    You are going to end up yet another single mother or at the abortion clinic if you're not smart.

    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    It's likely a fetish/preoccupation with the idea and helps him feel turned on during sex. It's not uncommon. You might call his bluff one day if you like and ask him what baby names he likes.
    I recommend you don't encourage him in any way. Joking or not.

  2. #12
    Platinum Member Rose Mosse's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2019
    Location
    British Columbia, Canada
    Posts
    2,380
    Gender
    Female
    Calling his bluff isn't necessarily encouraging anyone. I don't think it's smart to antagonize people for no reason or cause rifts in the relationship. There are ways for her to get her point across without making it awkward for him either.

  3. #13
    Silver Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2017
    Posts
    324
    Originally Posted by Batya33
    And people who use the pull out method are called parents.
    This is brilliant!


    You aren't even in a relationship and he toys with you about getting you pregnant? Yeah, I vote for run, run, run, run, run....!

  4. 08-23-2019, 05:10 PM
    Reason
    Off topic/Argumentative

  5. 08-23-2019, 05:16 PM
    Reason
    Off topic/Argumentative

  6. #14
    Gold Member thisisrichey's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2018
    Posts
    606
    Not sure what this is but it definitely could be "fantasy" or his version of "dirty talk" that gets him off?
    Weird part is he won't tell you - that part i dont' get.

    So i woudl just do this... i'm not into ultimatums but this situation i thin it's okay. "Listen.. either you tell me and explain to me this "no relationship" + "have my baby" thing so i completely undrestnd it - or no more sex...."
    That oughtta do it and if he still mumbles his way thru it - let him go and move on.

    good luck

  7.  

  8. 08-23-2019, 07:09 PM
    Reason
    Off topic/Argumentative

  9. #15
    Platinum Member DancingFool's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Location
    Wilds of Texas
    Posts
    9,875
    Gender
    Female
    Sooo....basically he told you that he isn't interested in the relationship. That's the only important part you need to pay attention to. You are just a casual hook up.

    As for the baby talk....it's doing exactly what it's meant to do - confuse you, so you keep stringing yourself along hoping this will turn into a relationship....aka....keep sleeping with him. He is telling you what he thinks you and women at large want to hear and his purpose is simple - keep you having obligation, commitment, and relationship free sex. Also, if you happen to get pregnant....because you are willing to play with fire with pull out....he'll be gone so fast, your head will spin and no guilt on his part. He TOLD you no relationship. Since you kept sleeping with him anyway, in his mind, you accepted the consequences.

    If you are cool with this fck buddy arrangement, fine. Just be smart and be sure you are using condoms, take morning after pill if even slightly in doubt something might have gone wrong, do not engage in pull out nonsense, get on bc yourself. Be safe, be smart. Also, be mindful of STD's. You aren't in a relationship, therefore you aren't monogamous. You should be taking full precautions, including condoms 100% of the time. If you aren't cool with this arrangement, then drop him off at the curb and find a guy who actually wants more than just to fck you.

  10. #16
    Platinum Member Rose Mosse's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2019
    Location
    British Columbia, Canada
    Posts
    2,380
    Gender
    Female
    Agreed on checking for STDs and practicing safe sex.

    I think we can all have different opinions and approaches. Be safe and keep it lighthearted with him. If you don't feel comfortable with him, have a heart to heart conversation or simply stop seeing him.
    Last edited by Rose Mosse; 08-23-2019 at 08:39 PM.

  11. #17
    Super Moderator annie24's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2004
    Age
    39
    Posts
    46,959
    Heís like a tomcat getting all the neighborhood stray cats pregnant. He wants to spread his seed and like the tomcat, heís not going to be there to raise the babies. Is that what you really want??

  12. #18
    Platinum Member Cherylyn's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2019
    Posts
    1,167
    Hmph, I'd reconsider having this boyfriend of yours. Use better birth control!

    Forget about having a baby with him. I wouldn't take him seriously.

    He sounds like a flake.

    He doesn't want a relationship yet he wants YOU to bear the child and you'll end up as a single, struggling parent. Think of your future hardship. You'd better look out for yourself because no one else will.

  13. #19
    Platinum Member figureitout23's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2017
    Posts
    4,505
    Itís a kink.

    Youíre hoping it means he deep down wants to be with you, but the truth is if he wanted to be with you, he would be.

    Watch any daytime television show look around neighborhoods, plenty of men who wanted to knock up women and when they did they peace out.

    Donít be so desperate to have someone love you that you saddle yourself with an 18 year responsibility, donít end up on the Maury show...

Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12

Give Advice
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •