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    What to do?

    My friend , J works for me. Today she accepted another job as a bus monitor which takes her away at the busiest daycare hours. Basically she will only be here for two hours while the kids are awake the rest of the time the kids will be asleep and then she’s gone again . Being a bus monitor will take her away till 10 in the morning and she leaves at 2:30 in the afternoon to do the afternoon run . She says that she’s doing it because she needs the money for her daughter‘s upcoming wedding next April.

    Realistically speaking this won’t make her more money. It is complicated trust me but because of taxes she will lose money over two years. I don’t think she gets that. I mean I could tell her factually how she’s going to get screwed for the next two years at tax time .

    It puts me in a massive lurch. She decided on a whim in one hour basically.

    I am pretty irritated right now. Should I just hire someone who can be here?

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    Tell her what you want to do and she'll either stay with you and save on taxes or leave and you'll find someone else to replace her. I'd give her a chance to make a decision so you can make a decision, however, let her know she needs to make a decision quickly out of respect for your lurch.

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    She wants to work both jobs so she has “ extra” however she is leaving in the day at drop off and pick up. And when I have to get a kid on a school bus and don’t want to haul all my babies out in the winter to put one kid on a bus for five minutes . It will take me 20 minutes to dress everybody just put a kid on a bus for five minutes .

    Basically she is telling me to have my son work her hours like it is a solution, but that is not what the parents signed up for.

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    She can't keep up her end of the employment bargain. I think you should tell her it won't work out and then hire someone who can be there when you need her. You need to think of YOUR needs and not worry about what is convenient for her.

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    She was hired to do specific hours on specific days. I cant believe she would turn around & tell you what hours she can work, and expect your Son to pick up her slack. That isnt how employment works.
    I think she is taking advantage of your friendship.
    I would tell her that the position is x hours on x days, and that if she cant do those hours then you will have to find someone who can.
    You cant run a successful business with flakey staff.

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    It will really mess you up, big time, if you haven't got staff to cover when you need them. She'll find out in her own time that the arrangement won't benefit her, and it's just a guess - but I suspect that she won't take kindly to having this pointed out. At best she'll feel stupid (and resent you for it) and at worst she'll think you're trying to manipulate her into staying.

    Your business needs to come first, just as her working life does for her. If it was my business, I'd explain to her gently that I'd need someone to cover these particular hours or the whole process becomes unmanageable; if she can find someone to fill in (and effectively job share) that would be great, otherwise you'll have no choice but to let her go and find someone who's available at the hours you need them to be.

    Good luck! This sort of thing always leaves a nasty taste in the mouth, and I hope you get it all sorted satisfactorily.

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    I would be honest with her and tell her that this new bus monitor job puts you in a lurch for the reasons you wrote her, so that you respect her desire to take that gig but since she is going to, you will need to find someone since she won't be available for those hours and as a result, she will not be able to put in the hours with you.

    Tell her this and see what she does. She may very well back pedal on the bus monitor gig and immediately say "no, forget it, I'm sticking here only". Or not. Either way, you will have solved this problem (she back pedals) or you will know if you need to hire someone else.

    The business comes first, not employees.

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    I'd tell her she has to choose one job over the other and what's it going to be? She's screwing you over. Or you let her go and hire someone else who is hopefully more reliable.

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    Tell her to make a decision regarding which job she chooses to do but not both. Tell her the dilemma she is putting you in and then you can determine if you need to hire her replacement.

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    Yes, I think that she is taking advantage of our friendship. She has always said though her family comes before anybody. Which it should but .......

    My husband said I need to talk to her about this and say how I feel and how this injures the business and our friendship. She always wants to have input on operations but if I am the one sloughing it out pretty much alone then mine is the only input. Because basically she will only be here for lunch and putting them to bed . She said I can be here at the Christmas break and I felt like saying well the day you end for the Christmas break is the day I close for Christmas break so really that’s of no consequence .

    She also said well I can go back to working full-time in the summer next summer and I felt like saying also if my son has been working the hours all year I’m not taking them away from him next summer so you can just stay at the same hours
    10 to 2 .

    She’s doing what’s good for her family I’m not going to screw my own son over .

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