Is this normal?

Is it normal when I see or hear someone starting to get emotional, their pitch in their voice goes higher and higher, pace of words gets faster and faster, the voice gets screechyer and scheechyer, whinier and whinier. I get this churn in my stomach, my blood pressure will rise and starts to get annoyed. Is this normal?

It's not normal to the degree you describe. When people get excited or angry etc their voice can change the more worked up they get but your reaction to it sounds excessive. What is going on that makes you feel like that?

My reaction to someone becoming distressed is to comfort them .

If it is someone I know, I would try to calm them down.

WTM, why didn't you respond to us in your last thread? After the last two, you disappeared..

I believe you have been in the same situation for over 5 years. You have always been very contemptuous of your wife. Why don't you end this?

You have repeatedly been told in these forums that you are controlling and intolerant and that therapy would help you. Instead of doing that, you continue in unhealthy patterns and then how up here and act like your wife is beneath you and the world is trying to drive you crazy. This relationship has clearly run its course, but you could still use some help.

Best to detach immediately if someone is this agitated. Deescalate and end the conversation asap. Interact with your wife when cooler heads prevail.

Is it normal when I see or hear someone starting to get emotional, their pitch in their voice goes higher and higher, pace of words gets faster and faster, the voice gets screechyer and scheechyer, whinier and whinier. I get this churn in my stomach, my blood pressure will rise and starts to get annoyed. Is this normal?

I'm just distracted by the word screechyer. But not just that. It gets screechyer and screechyer too. I can't help but wonder why someone would be so annoyed with you. Try understanding what brought about the misunderstanding so that it doesn't happen again or very often. The goal should be more understanding between the both of you especially if you're a couple.

Is it normal when I see or hear someone starting to get emotional, their pitch in their voice goes higher and higher, pace of words gets faster and faster, the voice gets screechyer and scheechyer, whinier and whinier. I get this churn in my stomach, my blood pressure will rise and starts to get annoyed. Is this normal?

Not for me.. I feel empathy when people are in distress.

Which leads me to you OP... why are you still in a relationship that is causing you such distress and/or have you dealt with your own anxiety and frustration by seeking help?

For some people, yes, it's normal. I've known a few people in my life who suddenly changed their tone and pitch plus grow louder the more upset and angrier they are. They not only get annoyed, they become extremely irritable as they engage in gaslighting, too.

Have you sought help for your controlling and bullying nature?

Is it normal when I see or hear someone starting to get emotional, their pitch in their voice goes higher and higher, pace of words gets faster and faster, the voice gets screechyer and scheechyer, whinier and whinier. I get this churn in my stomach, my blood pressure will rise and starts to get annoyed. Is this normal?

Thanks for all the responses!

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Have the two of you attended any kind of counseling? You have been annoyed and angry at your wife for years. I can't imagine you wouldn't actively seek help for all of the issues.

Thanks for all the responses!

 

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It is highly relelevent. Could you please answer the questions?

To be honest, it sounds like you are the problem.

OP, I have read your previous threads and as much as some people here may insinuate that YOU are the problem (e.g I could not disagree more with arjumand's post on here - none of what you ever wrote made it seem to me that YOU are controlling and intolerant) and your wife is doing nothing wrong, please know that that is NOT the case. Your wife sounds completely unbearable to live with, she has severe emotional problems, doesn't hear you, doesn't listen to you, doesn't respect you. She blows up at every little thing and is unable to have a mature discussion or ever recognize her flaws or take criticism.

Honestly I wish you would just find the strength to put your foot down and end this marriage. She may threaten suicide as usual but please know that those are just empty words, designed to keep you hostage. Have you ever thought about how right now you could be out there finding someone that is actually a good match for you, aligned with you on all levels? Instead, you are wasting your precious short life on this woman and losing your mind in the process.

Please do not have children with her (as I know you've mentioned you wanted kids).

How is it helpful to you to decide whether it's normal for anyone else or not? If it bothers YOU, then it's problem for you. What would you like to do about it?

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