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Thread: Fighting bad every other day, feels like breakup every time

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    Fighting bad every other day, feels like breakup every time

    Hi, hmm. I don't know where to start.

    My wife, she is a wonderful person. She love me and I love her. But somehow that is not enough. You see, at rest, at our natural state. Somehow we oppose each other. Every thought, every decision, every word we say. We have difficulty getting by with each other each day even at daily things, even for deciding to have a meal together. We are unhappy. For a long time. Somehow everything changed straight after wedding.

    It hurts to see her sad to see her cry when we fight. I wish she can find someone who will love her the way she wants and deserve. The marriage is tough, she didn't quit. But I did. I am pushing her away. I don't know why I do that. I don't know if it's because I'm hurting or I don't think I deserve her. I was mean when we fight really mean. I know if I'm mean enough maybe she will leave. So I chase her away because I wish she find someone that can give her what she deserves, what I can't.

    We had fun when we were together. But we can't function as a unit. I sincerely wish her the best.

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    File for divorce.

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    Start with counseling and if that doesnt work, get a divorce. Life is too short to live like that.

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    What other examples do you have disagreements on? Differences in the dinner menu shouldn't be a reason for divorce. The cooking can't be that bad between the both of you.

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    Get some couples counseling. If it doesn't work then get a divorce.

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    Is this the same woman you were with 6.5 years ago? If so, why did you marry, you were have horrible fights back then?
    Last edited by Hollyj; 08-15-2019 at 12:50 AM.

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    I wouldn't run to break up or divorce asap, I mean, you got married because there must have been good things, right?

    Counselling first, try to work things out. Give things a chance. It you've both given it your best shot and have tried counselling for at least 6 months and it's not working, then yes, you've got no option left but to file for divorce.

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    You at least owe it an attempt at fixing it. Try to fix with the help of a qualified marriage counselor. If it's still not fixable, you'll at least be able to walk away with no regrets.
    Nothing worse than walking away without trying, then second guessing yourself and finding the door shut closed in your face.


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