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Thread: I'm Struggling

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    Originally Posted by Batya33
    I am almost 53 and had my child at 42. It is harder for some to lose weight after 40 but you do not need to get to a gym to lose weight. I do have a workout room in my building but very often I use my feet and the outdoors to get my exercise in. As a mom especially when he was younger I had little time to work out and had been regularly exercising since 1982 including at gyms. But with very little time I had no time to add in commuting time to a gym and I had to work it in when my husband was around if I couldn't take my child out in the jogging stroller because of weather.

    So, what I did was committed to 30-35 minutes of cardio per day -every single day. I skip one day a year because of a religious obligation and I skip if I am very sick or doctor's orders not to work out. I can do 30-35 minutes. I have my workout clothes ready (typically first thing in the morning) and my water bottle ready and sneakers by the door, (yes I splurge on great sneakers especially since I'm older to help prevent injuries/soreness) earbuds in my purse. No excuses. I then either do the treadmill or a power walk. I do try to do some 'strength" training by moving my arms but, no, often it is only cardio. I try to work in strength to my daily living -like housecleaning (yes scrubbing floors counts I think). I've been doing this particular routine for 8 years. Before that I did 5 times a week. If all else fails -meaning husband is traveling, son is home from school and no child care - I have a workout DVD that cost about $15 and comes with an exercise band - Leslie Sansome. I do one of her walk at home workouts for 30-35 minutes in my living room. When my son was a toddler I put him in the playpen (yes he loved it in there) and later I bribed him as needed lol. I do her workout with a lot more intensity because it's only for 30-35 minutes. I get a great workout.

    I have not been overweight since I was pregnant (if that counts) and never before that other than for about 6 months when I was in my 20s and on a hellacious birth control pill. You can do this too - even if it's just 20 minutes commit to daily exercise or at least 5 times a week. You will feel better about yourself mentally too even if you don't lose any weight. And it will motivate you to drink more and eat more healthful foods.

    I know that kids change a marriage. We became parents three months after getting married. And I relocated for the first time in 43 years, was unemployed and/or not a grad student for the first time in 20 years or so. Lots of changes. Yes, sex becomes less spontaneous, yes there can be bickering or arguments about parenting made worse by sleep deprivation. I get it. The exercise will do wonders and is a great step in the right direction. Feel free to PM me if you like. All the best.
    Thank you for the encouraging words. I always have struggle with my weight but at some point I took up triathlon and lost tons of weight. I was still big and tall, but I was all muscle. At some point I was spending 13 hours a week working out. After kids, it just became impossible. I have been considering getting back on my bike in the evenings, but I hate working out before bed. My other option is trying to get up early which might work because I'm sometimes too stressed to sleep past 5am. I will try and give myself 30 minutes of cardio and let you know how it goes.

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    The problem is not your weight, it's your relationship and the lack of communication.
    Originally Posted by FullofTears
    I always have struggle with my weight

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    Originally Posted by FullofTears
    Thank you for the encouraging words. I always have struggle with my weight but at some point I took up triathlon and lost tons of weight. I was still big and tall, but I was all muscle. At some point I was spending 13 hours a week working out. After kids, it just became impossible. I have been considering getting back on my bike in the evenings, but I hate working out before bed. My other option is trying to get up early which might work because I'm sometimes too stressed to sleep past 5am. I will try and give myself 30 minutes of cardio and let you know how it goes.
    I don't suggest trying. I suggest doing it. I suggest making the plans in advance so you can just do it -no excuses. No need to be all or nothing as in -if i'm not training for /doing triathlons it's not worth it. Set your alarm for 5 if that's how early it needs to be to get the work out in and be diligent about going to bed at a reasonable hour at night. You can do this.

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