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Thread: Clear up a row, am I in the wrong

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    Is it two kids, or 3?

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    Why isn't she getting support from her ex?

    You do not allow people to disrespect you. You do not enable the behavior. Stop being a doormat to her moods. it is unacceptable.

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    This is how your life with her will be, forever. Unless she gets help for her angry outbursts this will continue.

    How does 30 more years of biweekly angry outbursts sound?

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    It's 3 children (9,15,17) that I have a great relationship with.

    Her ex is very placid to the point that he can't really be bothered. Nice enough guy but when they split (3 years ago) he moved back with his parents and is still there.

    I agree that I need to stand up for myself and it's not that I don't. We have a lovely time together generally but she has a whole host of insecurities and always feels she's not good enough when we talk. She get's very upset and I feel there may be a hint of depression maybe with some of the things she's said so I feel I have to tread carefully at times. I've offered financial help for therapy/counselling but she's too proud to take it but can't afford it herself.

    We feel very much in love when she's calm but the blow ups and arguments are far too frequent for my liking and I just want to resolve what must be some underlying issues but I don't know how to?

    Can she change or will it always be like this?

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    Why does someone 15 and 17 need different meals made for them? Hello, no. Want something different? Buy and make it yourself.

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    Originally Posted by Emajgnol88
    It's 3 children (9,15,17) that I have a great relationship with.

    Her ex is very placid to the point that he can't really be bothered. Nice enough guy but when they split (3 years ago) he moved back with his parents and is still there.

    I agree that I need to stand up for myself and it's not that I don't. We have a lovely time together generally but she has a whole host of insecurities and always feels she's not good enough when we talk. She get's very upset and I feel there may be a hint of depression maybe with some of the things she's said so I feel I have to tread carefully at times. I've offered financial help for therapy/counselling but she's too proud to take it but can't afford it herself.

    We feel very much in love when she's calm but the blow ups and arguments are far too frequent for my liking and I just want to resolve what must be some underlying issues but I don't know how to?

    Can she change or will it always be like this?
    Why hasn't she filed for support?

    She can change if she wants to, but as long as she has her emotional punching bag around tolerating her crap, she won't. You sound scared of her. If she treats you this way, she does not respect you.

    Is your gf illegal? Is this why she won't file for support?

    Dude, you should not allow her to treat you in this way. it is abusive, and also not good for the kids. Get a backbone.

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    Why does someone 15 and 17 need different meals made for them? Hello, no. Want something different? Buy and make it yourself.
    And, why aren't they doing their own laundry?

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    Why are the teens tasked with making dinner for everyone?

    Why are you trying to explain away not having done every darn thing the annoyed not-wife wanted done?

    And, most importantly, why haven't you moved out?

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    Exactly. By 17 I could run an entire house .
    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    And, why aren't they doing their own laundry?

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    By 17 I was out on my own in another city, never moved back, never had financial help from Mommy or Daddy. I had a wonderful childhood and family, my parents taught me how to take care of myself.

    My 15 y/o does his laundry, yard work, cleans up his mess, and helps anytime we ask - and he's happy to do it!

    You are not doing your children any favors by babying them. They will soon find out that "the world is gonna roll them...."

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