Butterflynic Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 Hi so I just reconnected with a guy I went to school with. He asked for my number and said that “we should link”, but he has a fiancé. I feel weird about it and he texted me at 11pm saying “hey ;)”.. but I never responded. I don’t want to be that person that flirts with a guy who is in a relationship and I strictly want to be friends. How do I go about this? He was a nice person back in school but it’s been a while and I haven’t talked to him in years. I don’t condone cheating so I wanted to know if it’s best to not reply back at all? Thank you. Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 Let him focus and concentrate on his fiance. His loyalty and devotion should be with his betrothed. It's weird that he suddenly asks for your number and texts you at 11PM. I'm glad I'm not engaged to him. I'd hate to think my husband would do that behind my back when we were engaged! Listen to your gut instincts and intuition because it's always right on the mark. Since you felt weird about this, you did the right thing by ignoring him and not responding. He was a nice person in school, however, both of you aren't kids anymore. If you want to be polite about this, you can tell him, "Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. I wish you all the best. Please don't contact me anymore. Thank you." Remain polite, respectful yet firm. He needs to be besties with his soon-to-be-wife! Link to comment
SherrySher Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 Lesson learnt, he is a man who plays around. No guy texts someone at 11PM looking for a chat with a friend. He's not your friend, he's some guy you knew way back when, and by the sounds of it, he grew to be a jerk. You don't need people like that in your life. Block his number, move on. Link to comment
milly007 Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 He sounds like trouble. I’d block & delete. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 How did you reconnect? Was it at a reunion? If you want to stay in touch with classmates do it out in the open such as a fb friend. Why did you give him your number? I just reconnected with a guy I went to school with. He asked for my number and and he texted me at 11pm saying “hey ;)”. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 Connecting with old classmates on social media is one thing. Personal chit chat is another I agree that it's likely not that innocent that he chooses to reach out at 11 oclock at night, especially in light of being engaged. I'd either delete him or ignore him Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted August 5, 2019 Share Posted August 5, 2019 Why don't you invite him and his fiance out for a coffee. Tell him you would like to make her as a friend as well. See what he does with that. No, I wouldn't respond to a late night text from him either. He has poor boundaries if nothing else. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted August 6, 2019 Share Posted August 6, 2019 I don’t want to be that person that flirts with a guy who is in a relationship Then don't. Choose your friends carefully, and skip trouble. Link to comment
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