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Thread: Ex Bf came back after a year and I am so confused.

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    Ex Bf came back after a year and I am so confused.

    So it's been a year since my bf broke up with me. He broke things off because he was going through child custody battles and thought it would be selfish to string me along. The "pessimistic" me didn't believe it and settled on the fact that maybe he found someone better than me. No facts just assumptions. I never told him that but eventually I got over it.

    So it's been exactly one year to date since we last seen or spoke to each other and I receive a "hey how you doing text" from him. It caught me off guard but nonetheless I was surprised to hear from him. So fast forward to now. It's been a few weeks and we talk and text everyday... Just small talk. He doesn't ever bring up the past. The way he talks to me is as if we never broke up. It's confusing to me but I try not to assume anything.

    So the other night he was hanging out with his friends and family and got drunk. I know him well and he holds his liquor pretty well so I don't think we was out of his right mind. He texts me asking if I eat pork? When I told him yes he then begs me to meet his family (in the passed I introduced I'm to my family but he never introduced me to his, other than his sister I casually met and chatted with for a few minutes). I didn't understand why we wanted me to meet his family now. At this point I am so confused.

    I asked him "why?" and his response "why not?" I'm confused because I haven't even been around him in person since we broke up. He doesn't act like he's trying to get back together with me he just acts as if we never broke up. I am so lost. What do you all think? My sister says that this is a classic example of a person who doesn't take me seriously, but it's hard to know that for a fact. What do u guys think?

    Thanks in advanced!

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    Why dont you ask if he want to be with you again or if its just one time thing ?

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    Why are you putting so much value in a few texts? Has he asked for a reconciliation? Has he asked to meet up? Have you even seen him? Why haven't you discussed the past? Why are not allowing these texts to continue without any answers?

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    I felt like I kinda did... Well not exactly. I asked him a few days ago if he came back because he missed me. His response "I haven't heard from you in a while so I decided to check up on you."

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    That means nothing. He is chatting with you by text for entertainment or ego. What are you getting from this, as he is not seeking reconciliation? It doesn't sound like you are a part of his life when you were together.

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    Why are you putting so much value in a few texts? Has he asked for a reconciliation? Has he asked to meet up? Have you even seen him? Why haven't you discussed the past? Why are not allowing these texts to continue without any answers?
    I am not putting value into a "text" I'm literally going with the flow of things. I'm just confused to say the least. I ask questions in regards to our passed and he hits me with the "sorry if I'm giving off the wrong impression" so I literally just go with the flow and ignore thoughts of a reconciliation. Sorry if my msg is vague. I left a whole lot out I see.

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    Why waste your time?

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    Why are you putting so much value in a few texts? Has he asked for a reconciliation? Has he asked to meet up? Have you even seen him? Why haven't you discussed the past? Why are not allowing these texts to continue without any answers?
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    Why waste your time?
    Idk... Guess that's why I'm asking for advice on this forum lol. I'm just confused.

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    If you want to reconcile and he doesn't then you are wasting your time and hurting yourself.

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    He just testing you for attention. He is a waste of time.

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