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Thread: Please I need help. He blocked me after confession letter.

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    Please I need help. He blocked me after confession letter.

    Hi all,

    First time posting here but I really need help. I am totally lost. I knew a guy and he had a girlfriend at that time but I think he liked me. However, I left because I thought that I will be able to do it and that it was for the best. After 14 months of no contract I sent him this on social media and he blocked me (I am in such a pain!).

    "I do not know why I am doing this but I feel I need to. I think I was really in love with you. I do not understand that you can still think about someone after such a long time. I remember starting to be in pain everytime you were leaving so running away from you I thought at that time was the best option. The worst part was forgetting your voice because I did not want to. I cried when I read the story about your family health problems. No one ever looked at me the way you did. I think you are the most beautiful man I have ever seen with great character. I know I should not have written this but I want to move on and I think keeping this all keeps me away from forgetting and it is definitely the time. I forgive you for everything."

    Please tell me if that is the reason to block someone. Thank you!
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    The blocking was so traumatic for me!

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    I'm sorry he blocked you.

    I think what touched a nerve with him was the part where you wrote, "I forgive you for everything." A lot of people can't handle those words because they think they didn't do anything wrong and they think it's absurd that they need any forgiving in the first place. They become disgusted and it's off with your head! You can't trust those types of psychos.

    Also, some people don't like it when you or others become sentimental. It's easier to get rid of you permanently by ghosting or blocking you forever. It's a cruel cut but this is the dark side of human nature.

    I'm sorry for your pain.

    Even though it's hard for you to see this now, when some people rid of you so abruptly and in a mean spirited way, they're actually doing you a favor meaning you don't deserve certain hateful people. The silver lining is, one door closes and another door will open for you. Bad people fade away or disappear and new, better people will gradually enter your life.

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    You are so smart. Thank you so much. You allowed me to release so much pain. I cried so much now!

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    Originally Posted by Cherylyn
    I'm sorry he blocked you.

    I think what touched a nerve with him was the part where you wrote, "I forgive you for everything." A lot of people can't handle those words because they think they didn't do anything wrong and they think it's absurd that they need any forgiving in the first place. They become disgusted and it's off with your head! You can't trust those types of psychos.

    Also, some people don't like it when you or others become sentimental. It's easier to get rid of you permanently by ghosting or blocking you forever. It's a cruel cut but this is the dark side of human nature.

    I'm sorry for your pain.

    Even though it's hard for you to see this now, when some people rid of you so abruptly and in a mean spirited way, they're actually doing you a favor meaning you don't deserve certain hateful people. The silver lining is, one door closes and another door will open for you. Bad people fade away or disappear and new, better people will gradually enter your life.
    Did you read the same post I did????
    She met a guy who had a gf.
    She “thought” he liked her.
    He wasn’t interested.
    He didn’t ghost her?

    And he didn’t ever contact her?
    She contacted him after 14 months of nothingness.

    I think you inadvertently called the OP a psycho?

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    Thank you but there is a lot of background story to this. Eg he took my number, he hated me for leaving and did something bad to punish me back than. The pain was all over his face when I was leaving and then later hate. 14 months because I could not forgive him for what he did and had to do it in order to move on. I think that he still is hating me. You do not block people when you are indifferent to them. We liked each other for 8 months.

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    Originally Posted by OlaOlaOlaO
    You are so smart. Thank you so much. You allowed me to release so much pain. I cried so much now!
    Did you ever date this guy? Kiss him? Have a relationship with him?
    It sounds from your thread that none of this happened?

    Why did you “think” he liked you?
    And what response did you hope to get from your apparent love letter saying after 14 months of no contact that you “think” you love him?

    Of course he was going to block you!!?

    I am baffled !!!

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    Originally Posted by OlaOlaOlaO
    You are so smart. Thank you so much. You allowed me to release so much pain. I cried so much now!
    Originally Posted by OlaOlaOlaO
    Thank you but there is a lot of background story to this. Eg he took my number, he hated me for leaving and did something bad to punish me back than. The pain was all over his face when I was leaving and then later hate. 14 months because I could not forgive him for what he did and had to do it in order to move on. I think that he still is hating me. You do not block people when you are indifferent to them. We liked each other for 8 months.
    Sorry, but if you are going to be vague, no one can actually give advice.

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    but maybe you are right. Maybe he never liked me. Nothing was ever said.

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    Sorry... but I am not surprised he blocked you?

    It’s very jarring for someone you aren’t in a relationship with to confess their love to you. To confess a crush? Sure. To confess attraction? Sure. But “love”... I mean... different people have different definitions of love - but to me, it all comes off as fantasyland if you aren’t in a relationship.

    To further the “fantasyland” - you haven’t spoken to him in a year.

    And he has a girlfriend.

    And I’m not sure what you wanted him to say to you in your fantasy? Did you want him to confess his love to you too, break up with his girlfriend and for the two of you to gallop into the sunset?

    You didn’t leave room for reality in your response. Anything other than “omg! I love you too!” would have hurt you. You put him in a very awkward situation.

    I think he just didn’t know what to say... and the whole thing was weird to begin with... and he didn’t want to deal with it or get into a bunch of back-and-forth drama or rehashing of the past... so he just blocked you.

    It sounds reasonable to me...

    Usually when you haven’t spoken to someone in a year+ , you start with “hey, how’s it going” and work it from there. Instead, you lead with this very intense confession... which... I mean... I think it would turn most people off. Sounds like drama they didn’t ask for.

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