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Thread: Emotional Cheating with the boss, maybe more?

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    Platinum Member lostandhurt's Avatar
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    I have been where you are right now and I know how confusing and even scary this is. Your whole future just went out the window...

    Cheaters lie then when caught they lie some more. Everything she told you has a small amount of truth in just to make it believable. Cheaters know you love them and want to believe that they would never do that to you so they use that against you.

    The embrace at the party was a make out session at the very least. There is a very good chance they have been having sex for the last few years. Accept that she is a cheater and you cannot trust her no matter what she says or does. Own it and take it to heart.

    If you live together get started on separating everything in your life today. Finances, living arrangements, insurance, cell phone plane, furnishings...everything.

    I know it hurts but you need to get busy getting away from her. Don't expect closure or the truth from her but you can expect more lies so let them roll off your back and keep moving forward.

    I wouldn't contact HR either as much as that would feel good short term, in the long run you are better than that and it might affect his children and wife if he gets fired. I would probably tell his wife though because she has a right to know the truth. But that is just me.

    Good luck and keep posting

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    I have been in your shoes too. Im so glad you left, you would never ever be able to trust her again.

    Cheaters lie & change history constantly, they have no moral compass.

    Take care and be kind to yourself.

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    Thank you all for your kind words and advice everyone. Its certainly a tough one to go through finding out that your partner is not who you thought they were, Ive generally been ok however its rather difficult that we own and live in the same house so there is some sorting out to do. She's been trying to make small talk with me however I can't see the point so just told her firmly that I have nothing to say to her and that I will buy her out of the house. (After all it was my family home from a young age).

    I still think its ironic that when I found out I said that I deserve better! Yet she threw everything back in my face and said she deserved better too. I really don't know why? I 'm an honest genuine guy who wanted kids with her and doest cheat. So I guess her better - is a married manipulative boss with kids. You have to laugh!

    Its funny when you think back as we bumped into her boss in the city last year, it was very awkward and he didn't acknowledge me, now I know why!

    Time will heal!

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