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    Originally Posted by SherrySher
    Some places are like that, yes. I don't agree with all the help that is it out there concerning mental health patients. I think some places are strictly based on trying to stop the patient from taking their own life and to get them on medication.
    But you're absolutely right, most times a patient needs much more.
    Counselling, empathy, understanding, proper support.

    For the time being OP, if you can't get into a more decent place, will you still consider going just to at the very least stop yourself from ending your life?
    Your life is so very precious. I know it's hard to see through depression and bad circumstances, but it doesn't have to stay bad for the rest of your life.
    Please consider this.

    Is there any other hospitals or centers available or that you could get to that would be more helpful? Friends, family, suicide hotline, crisis centers, walk in center for mental health, etc.

    You do matter...YOU DO. The depression is fooling your into believing it's not true. That's part of the condition, but it's not the truth.

    Don't give up.

    I hate living. I hate waking up. And I hate being in pain. But I am going to do my best to get through today. I am going to work and despite the pain, I will work to the best of my ability.

    You know, on Saturday I reached one year and five months of sobriety. I want to be grateful for this but like everything else this is hard. Drinking numbed the emotional pain. But it came with it's consequences. I'm sorry, I was trying to make a point sharing this but I don't know where I was trying to go with it. I just feel very conflicted. I'm sorry.

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    Originally Posted by SherrySher
    Some places are like that, yes. I don't agree with all the help that is it out there concerning mental health patients. I think some places are strictly based on trying to stop the patient from taking their own life and to get them on medication.
    But you're absolutely right, most times a patient needs much more.
    Counselling, empathy, understanding, proper support.

    For the time being OP, if you can't get into a more decent place, will you still consider going just to at the very least stop yourself from ending your life?
    Your life is so very precious. I know it's hard to see through depression and bad circumstances, but it doesn't have to stay bad for the rest of your life.
    Please consider this.

    Is there any other hospitals or centers available or that you could get to that would be more helpful? Friends, family, suicide hotline, crisis centers, walk in center for mental health, etc.

    You do matter...YOU DO. The depression is fooling your into believing it's not true. That's part of the condition, but it's not the truth.

    Don't give up.
    Originally Posted by goddess
    I am saddened to hear that you feel this way but you need to tell us more so that we may offer you some comfort and support, saku. You must matter to someone. Do you have family or any close friends?
    I'm sorry if I am sounding vague. Some of what is happening in my life is difficult to share. And no, I don't really have anyone I can turn to. Actually I did let a couple of people know but they never responded back. So I guess I did or said something wrong.

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    You know, on Saturday I reached one year and five months of sobriety
    That is truly a huge accomplishment and awe inspiring!! Congratulations.

    One of the side effects of not numbing the pain is rebound anxiety and depression. Also, obviously learning new coping skills on how to cope with your emotions without alcohol.
    It is doable...hard? Hell, yes...but doable.

    Have you joined AA? I know it sounds so cliche, but it will bring you a sense of support I think you need right now. The people there too will understand you and will help you.

    Are you getting help via therapy or counselling? That too is an invaluable tool that will help you cope with life and the issues you are facing.

    Change the messages in your head. "You hate life"...it's not 'life' per se (I'm assuming) it's the pain and the overwhelming feelings and the bad situations that you don't like.
    They are changeable with the right kind of help.

    Don't be sorry for explaining anything. I am wanting to hear anything you've got to say. If you feel you want to voice it, please do so.
    I hope today is a better day, even if only a tiny bit.
    You're not alone.

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    Contact your sponsor and start going to meetings for support.
    Originally Posted by saku
    I reached one year and five months of sobriety. Drinking numbed the emotional pain.

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    Originally Posted by saku
    You know, on Saturday I reached one year and five months of sobriety.
    This is, in all honesty, incredible! Saku, hooray for reaching one year and five months of sobriety!

    Do you know why you actually matter?
    Others who are struggling with alcoholism need to hear your testimony about how you've been able to choose sobriety and are still fighting to stay sober to this day. I have no idea how difficult it must have been to get there, nor do I have any clue of how challenging it must be right now for you. But what I am certain of: you are living proof that it is possible to choose sobriety. And others who are grappling with addiction need to hear your story.

    Which, by the way, is just starting. This is chapter 1.

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    Checking in with you, Saku...are you okay?

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    If you have trouble connecting with other people then start connecting with yourself, animals and nature....The planet still needs you saku* Be selfless. Give to these causes...

    I started volunteering at a local turtle sanctuary...It has gone a long way to lifting me out of my own dark place....

    I know what it's like waking up and carrying that pain day after day, month after month....It's truly horrible and really wears you down!

    Here's a couple of vids for you to watch:

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    Hang in there buddy...

    Carus*

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    Honestly, it's another day waking up to pain. You asked if I do therapy and I was but I no longer am. For years I have had frustrations with the mental health system. The therapist I was seeing was a decent lady, but she would talk over me and didn't always let me finish speaking.

    Since we only talked for about fifty minutes, I would write to her in advance since sometimes it's hard for me to explain things verbally. But it felt like it didn't matter. Someone suggested something called lay counseling. I'm not quite sure but I will give it a chance.

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    Originally Posted by saku
    The therapist I was seeing was a decent lady, but she would talk over me and didn't always let me finish speaking.
    As a counselor myself yes, shop around buddy*

    Waking up in pain every day sux but I sense strength in you yet young Padawan*

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    Originally Posted by saku
    Honestly, it's another day waking up to pain. You asked if I do therapy and I was but I no longer am. For years I have had frustrations with the mental health system. The therapist I was seeing was a decent lady, but she would talk over me and didn't always let me finish speaking.

    Since we only talked for about fifty minutes, I would write to her in advance since sometimes it's hard for me to explain things verbally. But it felt like it didn't matter. Someone suggested something called lay counseling. I'm not quite sure but I will give it a chance.
    You should seek the advice of another counselor. Not every counselor is suited for every individual.

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