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Thread: Doctors think I have cancer (Lukemia). Should I tell her?

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    I am so very sorry that you are going through this. I hope your results come back negative.

    I am of the opinion that you should NOT contact her. She sounds like an uncaring and despicable person. You don't need this negativity in your life right now, or ever, for that matter. You have enough stress and anxiety waiting for the results. And, she sounds like such an uncompassionate person that she might just tell you things that might upset you, judging from all the horrible things she said to you in the past. Let it go and focus on yourself, please. Best of luck to you, and please give us an update, OK, if you are up to it. Hugs.

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    Thanks everyone for the thoughts. The consensus is what I suspected it to be. I also spoke to a couple trusted close friends and they agree that contacting her is out of the question.

    For those that commented that I was looking at this as an opportunity to reconnect, perhaps thereís some truth to it. However, I think the desire is mainly rooted in if she were diagnosed Iíd want to know. But Iím the dumpee, sheís the dumper. She made it clear she doesnít care about me or my mental well being so why the hell would she care about my physical well being? Chances are she wouldnít. Thatís the difference between us... I am not perfect but I have a heart.

    Anyways, thanks again. Iíve got my clarity and wonít be reaching out to her even if the results of all my testing are positive.

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    Nope.

    It will be seen as a ploy to get her back or to guilt trip her.

    I know two people with lymphoma that have been diagnosed 12+ years ago. So depending on what type it is, its not a automatic death sentence.
    one person has been in remission for 9 years. so it depends on hodgkins or non hodgkins and i know someone who was originally thought to have it and it wasn't, it was Hashimoto's

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    Why even consider telling her when you don't even yet know yourself?

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    Originally Posted by thinkstoohard
    Thanks everyone for the thoughts. The consensus is what I suspected it to be. I also spoke to a couple trusted close friends and they agree that contacting her is out of the question.

    For those that commented that I was looking at this as an opportunity to reconnect, perhaps thereís some truth to it. However, I think the desire is mainly rooted in if she were diagnosed Iíd want to know. But Iím the dumpee, sheís the dumper. She made it clear she doesnít care about me or my mental well being so why the hell would she care about my physical well being? Chances are she wouldnít. Thatís the difference between us... I am not perfect but I have a heart.

    Anyways, thanks again. Iíve got my clarity and wonít be reaching out to her even if the results of all my testing are positive.
    " I am not perfect but I have a heart. " Exactly, dear OP. Keeping my fingers crossed. Hugs.

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    Thanks for the advice.

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    My heart goes out to you, and I hope for healthy results for you.

    I'd rather trust that she's likely to hear it from someone else. Then if she has anything to say to you, you'll hear from her.

    Head high, and focus on you.

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    Absolutely not. You want only positive energy and support in your life right now.

    My BFF just finished her leukaemia treatment and is currently cancer free... I firmly believe this is because she had a kick ass attitude and nothing but love around her as she went through it.

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    Hello guys and gals. Thanks again for the advice! Wanted to let you all know I got a clean bill of health today from the oncologist. I am cancer free! Thank you for the kind words you all gave. Means a lot knowing there are kind and caring people, even strangers, in this world.

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    That is great news!!!

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