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Thread: Spouse is 6 months pregnant and left me.

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    My husband was like you say you were. He thought that because he worked 60 hours a week and brought his full paycheck home and didn't go to bars or anything, I should be 100% happy. I told him multiple times that I appreciate his hard work but me and the kids wanted HIM. Not his paycheck. He CHOSE to work extra hours with no extra pay. Seven days a week, holidays, you name it. And when he came home from work he was angry and cranky and exhausted and didn't want to deal with me or the kids. Didn't even say hello!

    I divorced him. My dream of an intact family and 50 years of marriage died.

    Your wife's dream died too. I'm sure she is hurt and disappointed too. Maybe she is seeking comfort and attention from the other man that she feels she didn't get from you. It's all a shame.

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    I'm not buying it that a pregnant woman leaves you and then already gets a new boyfriend--while pregnant.

    If it were me? I would insist on testing to see who is the father.

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    Originally Posted by Placidmatt
    I have no idea why she is doing this. I know we had problems with communication and that I wasnít a very good spouse. Iíd often make her feel alone by not making an effort to spend time with her I didnít try to romance her. Etc
    Unfortunately, you took everything for granted. It sounds like she gave you PLENTY of warning, but you concentrated too much on what YOU do for your family to recognize that. It sounds like you were not capable of being in a well-functioning marriage. And, not that it is ok--by any means!--, but when you couldn't give her what she needed, she probably went elsewhere and found the new guy.

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    Originally Posted by jimthzz
    I'm not buying it that a pregnant woman leaves you and then already gets a new boyfriend--while pregnant.

    If it were me? I would insist on testing to see who is the father.
    I forgot to add, although I can't say with certainty that ALL men would not start up a relationship of any sort with a pregnant woman; my quick survey around the office was 100% NO WAY!

    Why take on such a burden? Unless, of course the guy is already involved and thinking the kid is his.

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    No way would i take on a pregnant woman unless it was 50/50 the kid was mine. That is too much drama straight off. I think you took the eyes off the prize and the prize went elsewhere. I wouldn't be 100% sure the newborn is mine either.

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    the more important question - did she leave with the 2 year old or do you have the 2 year old. You need to speak to an attorney and find out how you establish your rights to your children if she up and left with the two year old. The new guy taking up with her sounds fishy unless the child is his, or he is someone who has extremely poor boundaries. You say he's unattractive - that doesn't matter - if she wants someone who will listen to her - she is not looking for someone more attractive than you, just someone who will listen. You need to put the kabosh on her bringing the child around him, right now. Step up and be a good and protective dad.

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    If she left with the 2 year old depending on where you are she could get charged with kidnapping.

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    Was there a court intervention for you to leave the home and a restraining order to stay away? All you can do is get a good attorney and defend yourself. Does the restraining order extend to the kids or will you be allowed supervised visitation at some point? If you are convicted with abuse you may at some point be allowed supervised visitation, but you need a very good attorney right now.
    Originally Posted by Placidmatt
    days of me leaving the home....She has pressed charges on me recently out of nowhere. Spousal abuse.

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    Thereís no restraining order and I see my some regularly. I see him at a minimum 4 days a week for at least 5 hours each day.

    I agree I find it fishy that she is with someone so fast. I just donít understand why if she cheated and it is possible itís not mine why she wouldnít say anything. Itíll will eventually come out when the child is born.

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    The visitations are unsupervised.

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