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Thread: Is he doing a slow fade or am I impatient?

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    Is he doing a slow fade or am I impatient?

    Aubrey

    Iíve know this man for months before he asked me out on a date. They dates were amazing and I was too shy to kiss him on the second date. We work in the same building complex. He would come check on me multiple times a day. He then suddenly stopped and started ignoring me. He canceled our 3rd date,but held my hands and promised that everything will be okay. I didnít get his texts because he kept sending iMessage to my android.

    He all of a sudden became so busy. However, he came to my office every night and reassured me he was not playing games.

    He stopped telling me his whereabouts, I didnít bother to ask.

    We have no rescheduled date in sight. I havenít been to our work building in 4 days, I also blocked him from my phone. Today I had a change of heart and reached out to him. He said he had been looking for me, I replied the text and he has not read it and 8 hours has passed.

    2 weeks ago, the next day after holding my hands and saying we will be fine. I asked him when we will go out, he said that if he didnít want to see me anymore heíll tell me to my face. He is middle eastern and very straightforward. We agreed to be straightforward with each other. We are both in our 30ís.

    The fact that I am concerned enough to type this, hurts me so much. He did a 180 change in less than 24 hours. I asked if I did something wrong.

    We laughed about everything and anything, now Iím confused.

    Iím pretty much going to block him and just move on. You either want to be with someone or you donít. Love should not be this hard.

    When I was not replying his texts (because I didnt get them). He was accusing me of trying to break his heart bla blabla

    I dont want to go back to work and then heíll come back with the excuses. Iím too old for this. He sometimes acts like he does not see me & then shows up right before closing. I want to make it easy for him, since he cant be honest. Instead he decided to throw me into an emotional frenzy and deep confusion. I act like everything is okay, not wanting to seem needy. I respond to his gestures, but I feel like I am constantly at the receiving end of waiting for someone to want me and be serious.

    I wish I can work it out with him. However I see the sign of he's not that into me. Maybe he wants me to read between the lines and move on. Sigh!!!

    I have never called him & this is my second time texting. We had been seeing each other every day at work. (We don't work for the same company).

    I date one person at a time. I dont have the capacity to multitask when it comes to dating. In addition I am very beautiful with a good body & I get a lot of attention at work. He sees other workers come in and out trying to talk to me. I had eyes for him only, now I'm just confused😥.
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    Leave him alone and move on. He's not for you. Be with a man who is low-maintenance and doesn't give you unnecessary stress.

    The guy at work is a dud and reject.

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    Aubrey, you are on the right track. Move on. He is too much work.

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    Unfortunately he's just not that into you. Get on some quality dating apps with a nice profile and photos and start messaging and meeting men. Keep in mind dating is not exclusive until that is established. People date and meet others until then and you should as well. Try not to obsess or laser focus on anyone in general. Until a mutual interest and exclusive dating has at least been established, relax and recognize a crush vs dating.
    Originally Posted by Aubrey2019
    I am very beautiful with a good body & I get a lot of attention at work. He sees other workers come in and out trying to talk to me. I had eyes for him only

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    Originally Posted by Jibralta
    Aubrey, you are on the right track. Move on. He is too much work.
    Thanks. I hope to call him out on this behavior

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    What do you mean you were too shy to kiss him on the second date? Did he try to kiss you?

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    We actually did establish exclusive dating. I have been acquainted with him for over a year, and we considered dating in April. It doesn't matter now. With is behavior nothing can work. Playing power games or whatever does not work for me & I'm too old to switch to desperados mode. In my opinion, anyone that makes me post silly questions online and wait by my phone is not worth my time.

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    So I live with family and he tried to kiss me outside my house. With then nosey old ladies probably watching. Lol.

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    Originally Posted by Gary Snyder
    What do you mean you were too shy to kiss him on the second date? Did he try to kiss you?

    So I live with family and he tried to kiss me outside my house. With then nosey old ladies probably watching. Lol.

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    Obviously it's better to look at another's actions or inaction versus words which can be lies--a smokescreen. The next time he tries to play with you, tell him the game is over.

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