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    Social media competition?

    My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for months and I eventually moved away because it was a very bad breakup and he got into a new relationship immediately with a coworker. He continues to post things on social media aimed at me (passive aggressive, negative quotes about relationships etc) or things directly in competition to the things I post. He was the one who left and has been in a relationship since 2 weeks after we broke up and is "in love and happy". What could this mean?
    To clarify, by negative things I mean things about previous relationships (I was his only other relationship) and by competition I mean if I take a picture of a flower he will view my story then immediately post something with a flower. If I post a picture of me out with a friend (not male) or family member at dinner he will post a picture of his girlfriend at dinner etc.
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    It means that you forgot to delete him on social media!

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    I'm not sure where's the competition. Take the time to grow away from this presence. It should be about you and your forward growth. Negative influences are just that: negative. Dwelling on these and spending long periods in these moments inhibit us from focusing on other areas. You're worrying over things that should have no bearing on you and that's holding you back from living your life.

    Go out and do other things with your life.

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    Batya nailed it. Thatís literally all it means. Or, well, it means you still like looking at his social media and making it about you.

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    Delete and block. Nothing to worry about .

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    By negative things I mean things about previous relationships (I was his only other relationship) and by competition I mean if I take a picture of a flower he will view my story then immediately post something with a flower. If I post a picture of me out with a friend (not male) or family member at dinner he will post a picture of his girlfriend at dinner etc.

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    I get that social media is a big part, and big influence, in peopleís lives. But what you just described is only a competition, and only about you, if you make it that. Zoom out a bit and itís just two people posting stuff on their feeds.

    This is why blocking is good for some people. If youíre prone to this kind of thinking, it cuts out the source that feeds these thoughts. You just post flowers, pics with family, and thatís that. Heíll post what he posts. Same thing, just without the mental layer that makes it a game and keeps you focused on the past instead of the present.

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    I suppose the only person it matters to is you. How does his behaviour make you feel?

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    It confuses me and hurts. I'm not sure if he hates me, or is not happy in his new relationship, or if he is bitter. He insisted on staying friends and staying on social media so it's definitely confusing.

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    Are you a masochist? Why do you put yourself through this daily torture? If you've never heard of closure, it means that you no longer think about an ex who dumped you on a daily basis, because you've deleted him from social media long ago and are busy getting on with your present, new life.

    It no longer matters what he does or why he's doing it. You shouldn't be making space in your brain for someone who deleted you from his life. Time to delete him from yours.

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