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    Please help

    Hi, 5 months ago I got into a new relationship. I had been single for about 5 months beforehand and honestly, was making the most of it (kissed every guy out out just to experience it).
    Anyway, I got close to a boy who I really liked (my current boyfriend who I am in love with) but literally the day after he asked me to be his girlfriend I went on a night out and kissed a couple of guys. I honestly think itís purely because i was so used to doing this, I was incredibly drunk.
    I have now been in this relationship for nearly 6 months and I absolutely adore the boy but I feel horrendously guilty for kissing another guy just one day after he asked me out!! I havenít told my boyfriend and I really donít know what to do. I honestly wouldnít dream of doing anything like this now !
    Help 😞
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    Gold Member Cherylyn's Avatar
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    At least you have a conscience! I commend you for it because a lot of people are very clear with their consciences despite the bad things they do such as deceive, betray, lie and steal.

    You have two choices. Confess to your boyfriend about kissing and being drunk while risk losing him. He might walk. Or, carry your guilt and behave yourself from now on.

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    If you want to end your relationship, tell him. If not, keep quiet and don't ever do it again.

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    Thank you for your response!

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    Iíd never want the relationship to end! Iíd never dream of doing it again

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    What is your motivation for telling him?
    You say you feel horribly guilty. Is it to relieve the feelings of guilt?
    I am not advocating being dishonest, but there are times that it's best to leave it be. This is one of them.
    You would relieve your guilt at his expense.

    You seem remorseful. It was only at the very onset of the relationship and it isn't exactly earth shattering.
    Learn your lesson and be a better girlfriend for having done so.

    If you feel you need to tell him, be prepared to break up with him too.

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    Find another way to relieve your guilt, and consider whether you still have boundary control issues or not. If you do, find a way to work on them. If you don't actually have boundary issues now, chalk it up to awkward things you did at the start. While not as problematic, I'm sure he did some awkward things at the start. Everybody does.

    How long had you been seeing him before this happened? What did "asked me to be his girlfriend" mean to you at the time?

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    Don't say anything but please don't do it again. You cheated so control yourself from now on. Alcohol is no excuse.

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    It's not that big of a deal. It would be a big deal if you did it now. Just let it go. If you bring it up now, it would seem your trying to cause un-nessary trouble and if that's the case, then you need to look at why you would want that.

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    Originally Posted by JaggerJim
    It's not that big of a deal. It would be a big deal if you did it now. Just let it go. If you bring it up now, it would seem your trying to cause un-nessary trouble and if that's the case, then you need to look at why you would want that.
    Welcome back JJ, haven't seen you in awhile. :)

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