Originally Posted by bluecastle
None of us can say if you're getting ghosted, since we don't have a portal into his mind and intentions. As far as whether you should say something? Well, I think you already have—that you both have—two days ago, when he told you he didn't feel like talking and you said you're around to talk if he feels like it. Can't really do more than that except for hold this space as long as you can, and want to.
I get the impression this has been a kind of casual, undefined thing? Over the past three months have there been any talks about what you guys are doing, what you want—generally, from each other? Or have you just been going with things, feeling it out? Up to this past week have you felt secure in things?
What I'd say is give it some more time, but also know your limits. If he's not giving you enough—well, that's that. You don't even need to say something, though if you do it should just be a simple: "Hey, I hope you're sorting out whatever you need to sort out. I've decided that continuing things isn't going to work for me, and wish you the best." But only say that when you're ready to mean it, not when you're looking for some kind of reaction from him.