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Thread: BF Wants Break due to Stress

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    Sorry to hear this. Yeah, he's tiptoeing out using the "confused" excuse. Sadly, agree there may be someone else.
    Originally Posted by glittergirl2
    he feels upset that he doesn't know what he wants. That made me feel really concerned and hopeless.

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    Originally Posted by katrina1980
    Frankly he sounds like a "commitment phobe," they are notorious for not knowing what they want and crying a lot, often times when it doesn't even seem appropriate, like here.

    Good luck though.
    Seems like this could be it..He also now said he wants me to meet his brother who will be in town in about a week and a half

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    Personally?

    I would not agree to meet his brother while your relationship is in this precarious state. I would let him know its confusing to tell you he wants space but then invite you to meet his brother. If hes at all mindful or respectful, hell understand why the mixed signals are hurting you.

    My concern would be that he wants to put on a happy front while his brother is around, but then distance himself again as soon as hes gone.

    Are you prepared to take that risk?

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    Originally Posted by glittergirl2
    Seems like this could be it..He also now said he wants me to meet his brother who will be in town in about a week and a half
    This is what is known as your standard "mixed message." Again, commitment phobes are notorious for it.

    He pulls back, doesn't know what he wants, cries -- BUT then he wants you to meet his brother?

    Say "no thank you" and be on your merry way..

    Guys like this will drive you literally insane but only if you allow it.

    Choose to not allow it.

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    Originally Posted by glittergirl2
    He also now said he wants me to meet his brother who will be in town in about a week and a half
    You're getting strung along. This is not even a good breadcrumb.

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    As someone who can relate to your boyfriend in the professional area (long days, night shifts, weekend 24h shifts, etc) I can surely relate to him questioning the relationship as well.

    When a relationship is a little rocky and adds to the stress it may be literally more than he can handle at this moment.

    Could be if stress diminishes he will be interested in pursuing the relationship with you again.

    For now I would say let him focus on work and you must focus on yourself.

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    I've been trying to focus on myself. Even though I have lots of friends and hobbies it has been really tough.

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    Originally Posted by glittergirl2
    I've been trying to focus on myself. Even though I have lots of friends and hobbies it has been really tough.
    Why do you need to focus on yourself? The choice isn't "boyfriend" or "myself" -why not find ways to contribute to others - help out a friend, look for a volunteer opportunity, etc.

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