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Thread: New baby - had huge fight with in laws --- what to do

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    Originally Posted by a_lifters_life
    This comment is not needed. So yeah if you dont have anything nice to say - be quiet.
    There's some next-level irony for ya.

    Look, bud. Don't know if you're on the juice or what. I *might* expect an overwhelmed mother going through hell and back physically and who's being hormonally ravaged right now writing this kind of complaint. Not a grown man whose job it is right now to be the source of stability and support while your wife does her job of rearing a newborn. Instead you're pitching fits with inlaws and telling the woman you claim to be the only one who can help your wife to "GTFO."

    You should have been calling the in-laws to apologize an hour ago. Use whatever bad excuses you've still got some time to use. Stress from the hospital, scared of being a dad, not articulating the reason you didn't want the kids around well enough, whatever. They're all terrible, but they're something. Most importantly, admit you were wrong. You're burning bridges over some goofy ****, and I highly doubt at all to the benefit of either your wife or child.
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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    The discussion should have been left to your wife , not you.
    Yup. And the "GTFO" was over the top.

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    Originally Posted by j.man
    There's some next-level irony for ya.

    Look, bud. Don't know if you're on the juice or what. I *might* expect an overwhelmed mother going through hell and back physically and whose being hormonally ravaged right now writing this kind of complaint. Not a grown man whose job it is right now to be the source of stability and support while your wife does her job of rearing a newborn. Instead you're pitching fits with inlaws and telling the woman you claim to be the only one who can help your wife to "GTFO."

    You should have been calling the in-laws to apologize an hour ago. Use whatever bad excuses you've still got some time to use. Stress from the hospital, scared of being a dad, not articulating the reason you didn't want the kids around well enough, whatever. They're all terrible, but they're something. Most importantly, admit you were wrong. You're burning bridges over some goofy ****, and I highly doubt at all to your wife's and child's benefits.

    J Man, you will soon be told to GTFO the forum.

    Lifters, you have some anger issues. Are you on steroids?

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    Sometimes people need a little hard love.

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    Originally Posted by a_lifters_life
    We've seen countless, additionally we had an army of nurses at the hospital trying to help ; to no avail. The only person who has been able to help was her mother, and we made that ABUNDANTLY CLEAR to her.

    Instead, she took that as I'll give you her distant attention in this trying time and bring down the girls with me. The other grandmother of these 2 girls lives 15 mins away and is retired, not to mention the countless babysitters.

    To me this is her mothers issue that she cant say no, even if you have a 10 day old boy who needs help with breastfeeding.
    Why can only her mom help?

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    I want to give you the benefit of the doubt and say you're an overwhelmed parent. I don't know, I don't read much on here - But dude, whatever it is - REIGN IT IN. You're burning bridges over what, in hindsight, is really nothing. I'd say you owe your wife's parents a big apology.

    Breastfeeding, as natural as it is does NOT come easy for a lot of women. If you want a dedicated boob milk expert, get an in-house lactation specialist there as often as possible. I don't see how grandma is the only one who can make it work. And I'm saying this as someone who tried for 2 months before my son would finally latch - I get it's important to her to BF, and that's fine but the rhythm is something she needs to establish on her own once she has all the tools available to her.

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    Why can only her mom help?
    shes been the only person that can get him to latch

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    I agree. I breast fed as well. My mom never did because she couldn’t. That being said it doesn’t come naturally to some babies and moms. But I doubt her mom is the only boobie specialist who can help. And if it really doesn’t work out there is bottle feeding.

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    Why can only her mom help?
    This is what I'm wondering. Is grandma a lactation specialist? Does she have magical mammary powers? Why her?

    Just my $0.02 but these things can take time and some babies are terrible with latching. Maybe mom would do better at home with just you and she doesn't need the added stress of grandma, grandpa, and 2 young kids running around her house.

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    Well, you’re kinda SOL now all you can do is apologize and HOPE mom even wants to talk to you .
    Originally Posted by a_lifters_life
    shes been the only person that can get him to latch

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