i am not sure what to do

i am really lonely and struggling to know if i love this guy we still love each i think but its hard i am really lost and i dont feel like my self any more i have been diagnosed with depression and i am only 15 but i am not sure what to do anymore the guy i love has autism and torretts but i love him but i am not really sure what to do as i feel really alone all the time and i am just not sure what to do.

Can you please give some more background? We do not know what is happening in your relationship. Are you getting treated?

well i am not really getting any treatment as there is not really anything to help me due to my age

but with the relationship we were together and we broke up as he was getting picked on by people for dating me due to my age and his age but we are only two years apart i love him but i am not ssure he loves me he tells me that we might get back together when i am 16 at the end of the year but i am just not sure what to do

You can receive counseling. Who told you that you could not receive treatment? Is this your thinking?

I think that if he loved you, he would have stood by your side. I think it may be best to let this go. Please do not put your life on hold for this guy.

Please get some help for your depression.

i did ask about getting counselling but the school said that they have no one taliored to depression that can help me

i am going in to year 11 soon and i am not sure how i am going to cope with trying to study as i ahve learning dissiculties i have dyslexia and dysgraphia and i really struggle ad having depression really get me down but my mum does not want to take me to cahms as it did not help my sister with her issues so she thinks that it will not work for me

What is cahms? Have you spoken with someone at your school regarding your disabilities? Does your school have any suggestions for counselors outside of the school? Where is your dad?

cahms is an outside of school help i have spoken to the school but they are not sure how to help and i need ideas for studying and my real dad is not aloud to see me i just have my mums boyfriend

i struggle with studying and dealing with my depression on my own and with the relationship as well it seems to go from bad to worse for me

Can cahms recommend another program?

they suggested teen spirit but they are not taloired for my issues

its hard thing t deal with but i struggle with studying and having the motivation to do things and i dont get the help from anyone its so hard for me to deal with and i dont have any ideas oh how to study or write notes or doing work in school

do u have any ideas on how i can study and have the motivation to study

Ask your parents to take you to a doctor. You can tell a doctor anything you feel and they can help you with treatment and a referral to a psychologist. You can also talk to the psychologist about any of your troubles in private and get help and advice for things that are bothering you from an adult you can confide in. This boy doesn't sound ready willing or able to have a relationship.

i am really lost and i dont feel like my self any more i have been diagnosed with depression and i am only 15

thanks

do u have any ideas to help me study as i am struggling with everything going on

This might be a good time for you to take a break from the relationship and really concentrate on getting yourself to a better place. It hurts, but it doesn't sound like the guy is ready for the weight or seriousness of your relationship. And, perhaps with your depression and/or anxiety, you are not ready either?

Do you have a counselor at your school with whom you can speak about getting some counseling and/or studying resources?

you might be right but i have spoken to the school but they seem to not know what to do and they just say speak to ur mum or just try this for now i am just really struggling on how to handle and deal with things all at once

Start by taking a break from your boyfriend. Let him know you care, but that in order to have a functioning relationship, you need to take care of yourself.

Next, tell you mum that you need help. Tell her that you need counseling and that you are struggling with your school. Be honest with her and make sure she hears you.

Next, ask your teachers for extra tutoring. If they are not able to do that, ask them who is. Trying to study alone will be hard right now because your brain probably tends to wander. Find someone to study with: this will help keep you on task.

Write things down. What causes you to feel depressed or anxious? What are your fears? After you write them down, take a break. Breath. Do something else. Return to your list a few hours later. Write down how you feel after taking a break. Look for patterns in your behavior. This will help you to notice the cause and effect of what you are feeling.

thanks i just am not sure whom to ask at school for help

its so hard to try and find the time and the energy and motivtion to do things

Start by asking your teachers.

It is hard to find time and energy. But don't make excuses. Nobody else is going to do these things for you. You can either lie in bed, miserable and sad, or you can get up and take small steps toward improvement.

Make is a point to ask your teacher TODAY. Don't delay, because you won't follow through. Do it now. If you can type on this webpage, you can email your teacher.

thanks i have emailed my teachers and they said they will see what they can do to make things eaisier for me at school

thanks i have emailed my teachers and they said they will see what they can do to make things eaisier for me at school

This is awesome! Take small steps... and chin up-- you've got this.