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    How to tell my girlfriend to ‘arch her back’

    We have had issues in the past while doing “doggy style” and because I’m dumb it took me awhile to realize it is because she isn’t arching her back.

    What is the best way to communicate this to her? During the act? Sometime when we are just spending time together? In the most recent experience I got frustrated and wasn’t sure to express what is goIng on and it sort of ruined the mood.

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    Next time you do it, just say "Arch your back for me". Easy peasy!

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    While having sex and doing into that position try starting off gently, rather than just going for it. Maybe rub her back a little so she relaxes more and just whisper, "try it like this babe" while you gently push her back down a little as you rub and kiss it a little.

    I think it would be a much better approach than just showing her a pic and telling her she's doing it wrong.

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    🐶🐾 🍖 Throw her a bone 🙀🐩🐕🌭
    Originally Posted by shoestrap420
    We have had issues in the past while doing “doggy style” What is the best way to communicate this to her?

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Throw her a bone
    Hahahahaha best comment ever 🦴

    All silliness aside, could she be doing it because she is trying to position herself in a way that feels good for her? Or is she just new to the position? Like is she just trying to stop you from banging in to her cervix or she legitimately doesn’t know what she’s doing?

    Either way, I prefer talking about these types of things outside the heat of the moment... during dinner or morning coffee or while we are hiking... you get the idea.

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    She doesn't sound comfortable and it sounds like you're moving too quickly. Take your time, leave the rest for later.

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    arch your back? Why is that hard to say?
    Kinda like, `move your leg over here'
    Bigger question is why you don't feel open discussing things with someone you get naked with?
    Just ask her.

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    Thank you for the replies everyone. I definitely wasn’t planning on showing her that diagram or anything haha.

    She is definitely not new to the position. Sometimes we seem to have this issue and sometimes not. It did sort of just feel like an off night. I am mostly considering the second response ITT. Or talking outside the heat of the moment as someone else said

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    arch your back? Why is that hard to say?
    Kinda like, `move your leg over here'
    Bigger question is why you don't feel open discussing things with someone you get naked with?
    Just ask her.
    You have a good point. I seem to have some communication problems. I don’t know why I feel nervous discussing the specifics and mechanics of sex..

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    I think there are times that call for discussing things out of the bedroom and not in the moment.
    But (to me) this isn't one of them.

    It feels like it becomes a more serious issue than warranted. I'd wonder why you hadn't mentioned it in the moment before.

    Keep it light, keep it fun. Ask for what you want and trust me, that she wants to know and can't read your mind.

    Put yourself in her place. Wouldn't you want to know what pleases her? Would you rather her tell you in the moment of over a summit breakfast meeting?

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