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    My boyfriend told me Iím a bad kisser

    I like my boyfriend a lot and we have been dating for over 3 months but he says Iím a bad kisser and has said that since our second date. I try to fix it but he says I donít use my lips and I donít know how to get any better. When I tell him it hurts my feelings he says I shouldnít get offended and heís being nice by trying to fix it. I would really like some tips. I donít want to break up with him I just want to know how to be a better kisser.

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    How old are you?

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    Follow what he does.

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    Originally Posted by MaceyMino
    I like my boyfriend a lot and we have been dating for over 3 months but he says Iím a bad kisser and has said that since our second date. I try to fix it but he says I donít use my lips and I donít know how to get any better. When I tell him it hurts my feelings he says I shouldnít get offended and heís being nice by trying to fix it. I would really like some tips. I donít want to break up with him I just want to know how to be a better kisser.
    He seems like a jerk, why would you put up with someone that critiques how you give affection? It's probably just a lack of chemistry OP and wouldn't matter what you do to "fix" this... he will find something else to criticize you about.

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    I donít know how old you are, you can google some tips on to how to kiss, but your boyfriend does not seem like a nice guy.

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    I'd have a sense of humour about it and tell him the reason you don't move your lips is because his breath smells like an unwashed urinal. I think he's toying with you. Don't let these things get to you. If he starts becoming more detailed and offensive about the issue, you know what to do.

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    Follow what he does.
    Agree.

    My first boyfriend was much more expierienced in kissing than i was, I let him lead and followed what he did, thatís how most if not all people learn their own techniques, well that and porn.

    Watch how heís treating you though, this could potentially be a red flag, hard to tell now, but it could be.
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    If heís not being mean and ęjust trying to fix itĽ - shouldnít he be the one giving you tips and working with you on it? It can be totally fun and playful to teach or learn new techniques through trial and error and practice.

    ... but if heís just telling you whatís wrong and hoping youíll magically find a way to fix it yourself, heís being borderline abusive, IMO.

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    I'd have a sense of humour about it and tell him the reason you don't move your lips is because his breath smells like an unwashed urinal. I think he's toying with you. Don't let these things get to you.
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    No, don't do that.

    Just practice more ;) Try to follow what he does, as people have mentioned.Try different techniques.

    Make sure he's not being mean though. If he keeps criticising you then it's time to find a new boyfriend.

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    I think it's a fine line between being serious when someone treats another person poorly and another one being able to take a joke or laugh something off. I agree with RedDress that his behaviour is borderline emotionally manipulative and quite callous if it's serious, repetitive or it gets a bit out of hand with the comments. I wouldn't even buy into naivete for this. I chose not to go the overanalyzing route in my earlier post but since it may be misinterpreted on a one-dimensional screen, I'll refine my response: If he wants to play in a hot kitchen, boy better make sure he can take the heat, imo.

    To the OP: you don't need to make him realize anything. A good man will come to his own conclusions about you and someone compatible and caring will know how to behave around his partner. You do your part and he should do his. Otherwise, I reiterate, you should know what to do.

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