Issues with in laws

[Hollyj]

First of all, you should be working. You should also consider school to earn more.

I do not understand how anyone could ever think that this would work.

As Sarah suggested, sell the house . Then, either buy another property with your husband, or rent. Your marriage will not survive this.

[Hollyj]

Your husband has not bought a house with his mother.
He couldn’t afford to buy because he didn’t have the deposit and she paid the deposit.
If he allowed her name in the property when he is paying the full mortgage then he is a fool.
When his mother dies she might leave half the house (her entitlement) to the other son.
So, unless it’s his name solely on the house , he will only eventually own half of it , regardless of the mortgage payments.

Why are you not working? Why are you freeloading?
Do you have children? You “thought” that you working was to help your husband out so you can pay your own bills??? You should be paying your own anyway? Are you telling me that your husband has been paying all of your personal bills too?
While you sit at home all day?
And you are complaining that the mother in law doesn’t cook for you?

I think your husband just has a lot of freeloaders on his hands?

Spot on! House full of "freeloaders."

[rainy446]

It wasn’t a family gathering.
Your husband wasn’t going to be there. You just happened to be there because you don’t have a job yet.
It was the half owner of the house(your mil) and her son (your bil) that were having people over.

They did let you know. You said you knew that morning.

No you can’t kick someone out of their own kitchen, you can respect their time in their kitchen and cook before or after them.
You aren’t contributing financially , no reason not to do so either, so don’t make demands. Sorry! Being a “wife” doesn’t give you that superiority. Sorry you think it does!
You don’t get on with them, you don’t like them, they don’t like you either.
The mil contributed significantly to the house , neither you or the bil have contributed anything.

Until you start contributing, you have nothing to complain about.

What do you mean there wasn’t people over? There was people nieces , nephews, other brother and his wife grand children . There was people Billie and I said it annoyed me that they chose a day when husband wasn’t off. My husband told me at 11am because that’s when they told him and by 1 pm people were coming over and she was cooking in the kitchen the whole time. Money doesn’t make you a good or a bad person billie

[Billie28]

Why did I marry him? The same reason anyone marries someone. We love each other and being apart for long was painful so we wanted to get married because we love each other and I did ask him to wait but he couldn’t be patient since he considered it an opportunity to have something on his name instead of paying rent.

He wanted the opportunity to have something in his name instead of paying rent??
You didn’t contribute to that? So that doesn’t make my sense? He did that with his mother? Not you?

[Hollyj]

That’s exactly how I think. I tried to build a relationship with these people but it’s like you have to do 100% and they might do 2% so it’s exhausting. I should the one to always greet etc. Now I keep to myself because I have tried my best and honestly I do need a space as well. So my convos are minimum with them. And they are anyways never keen to start a convo or something so entire pressure is on me. I’m hurt because I have noticed few times that my husband is bit bias towards them.

You will have more space if you have a job.

[Billie28]

What do you mean there wasn’t people over? There was people nieces , nephews, other brother and his wife grand children . There was people Billie and I said it annoyed me that they chose a day when husband wasn’t off. My husband told me at 11am because that’s when they told him and by 1 pm people were coming over and she was cooking in the kitchen the whole time. Money doesn’t make you a good or a bad person billie

Money doesn’t make you a good or bad person, you are correct.
So why are you complaining about people because they aren’t contributing money when neither are you?
Your original post was ALL about money ?

[rainy446]

Money doesn’t make you a good or bad person, you are correct.
So why are you complaining about people because they aren’t contributing money when neither are you?
Your original post was ALL about money ?

It was example about how I think there are double standards.

[rainy446]

He wanted the opportunity to have something in his name instead of paying rent??
You didn’t contribute to that? So that doesn’t make my sense? He did that with his mother? Not you?

His mum didn’t have enough money to buy the house only for the down payment and she couldn’t get mortgage so he wanted to help his mum out and also considered it good idea so he wasn’t just paying money towards rent. They don’t use to live together before.

[Billie28]

It was example about how I think there are double standards.

Your whole thread is full of examples of your double standards.
Sorry!

[rainy446]

Your whole thread is full of examples of your double standards.
Sorry!

Why bother even typing then.