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Thread: Why I get insecure after men say they love me?

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    Male 30.

    Strong men like needy girls. It gives them the confidence that they'll satisfy you. If there's anything a guy doesn't want it's a dissatisfied woman.

    You say you don't like being insecure and needy but you're afraid the guy won't like you. And that it's not just one man doing this.

    So you need to balance your appearance of being needy, in order to keep one of them attracted and chose the guy who requires the least bit of needy from you.

    That more secure guy is stronger and can handle you in a more comfortable state of being less needy.

    Now if you're getting multiple guys this way, know that you might not be as needy as you think you are, as much as you would be if you only attracted one guy.

    Also needy is ok, but insecurity isn't as ok. You need the guy who likes the needy but doesn't need the insecurity.

    It's ok for a woman to be needy because that means you really want to rely on the guy to be your rock, which will force him to work hard for you and make you happier, more content, and relaxed to do your own things when he's at work.

    On the other hand you don't want to be low fruit, which is why you don't want either attribute. That's not an insult that just means if you're attracting a lot of guys because you've got imperfections and you inherently don't want those imperfections. What you've really got to do is climb the tree of self respect.

    You will be unhappy being perfect, and you will make the men unhappy. But if you consider yourself low fruit because you're uncomfortably insecure and attracting guys your not really interested in who make you feel insecure, you've got to get in the middle of the tree somehow by doing what ever it takes to climb up that self respect.

    In the middle of the tree you'll have a good balance of humility and pride and that is actually better than being at the top of the tree, and you'll find some really practical guys who can do more than the ones that want you to be insecure.

    Men who want an insecure woman have insecurities of their own and they might actually deliberately make you insecure just to stay on top of you, and since you know you're better than that you've got to avoid predators.

    But you should at least pretend to be more insecure than the man you chose or boost his security really high because that will masculate him and give him the confidence that he is your rock. You have to get what you want in clever ways that makes him think he's the perfect guy. Like literally convince him he's perfect and stuff like that before you ask him for something under the radar.

    Have fun. V

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    Just checking to see if I got banned. If this posts then I didn't get banned.

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