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    Cheating spouse...to tell or not to tell?

    If you discovered your best friend's spouse was cheating on her, should you tell her or keep it a secret if you thought they would never recover
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    My best friend? I would tell her.

    I generally have a policy where I try not to get involved - but yes, absolutely I would tell my best friend.

    I wouldn’t say “he’s cheating” though. I would simply present whatever evidence I have and let her come to her own conclusions.

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    How do you know this for a fact?

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    I would tell her.

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    Unless you have pictures/video of the spouse in bed with another man/woman, how would you know that he/she is actually cheating?

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    What leads you to believe they are cheating?

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    Provided that I had actual evidence: I would either show her the evidence or help her figure out that he's cheating.

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    How much absolute proof do you have?
    Originally Posted by Sweet Sue
    If you discovered your best friend's spouse was cheating on her, should you tell her or keep it a secret if you thought they would never recover
    from it?

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    Of course you tell a best friend! That's without question.

    My best friend's husband was cheating on her and yes, it was devastating for her to find out. But she recovered and has now been married to a wonderful man for many years.
    She thanked me more than once for telling her and for getting her away from a liar and cheater.

    But I agree with the others, you need proof. You can't just go on hearsay or guess. You will have needed to have seen it with your own eyes or have actual proof of some sort, you can't just go and tell her and have nothing to back it up.

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    I would tell her if I also have solid proof to back it up.

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