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Thread: I'm not free to be me

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    I'm not free to be me

    Everything I do has to include my boyfriend.. if he doesn't approve. I can't participate.

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    Silver Member Cherylyn's Avatar
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    He sounds controlling and manipulative. Perhaps it's time for him to become an ex-boyfriend.

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    Why not? What will happen?

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    How long have you been together?

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    Why not? What will happen?
    I want to know this too!
    Is it that you are not allowed to participate or that he suggests something else to do?
    What happens if you say itís fine if you donít want to go , Iím happy to go alone or take a friend?

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    What is preventing you from doing what you want to do anyway?

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    Leave him. He's not your prison guard or parole officer unless you let him be that in your life. Unless this is a BDSM thing, why are you participating in this nonsense..
    Originally Posted by LynnetteVP
    Everything I do has to include my boyfriend.. if he doesn't approve. I can't participate.

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    Why are you allowing him to dictate what you do and don't do? You're not his slave. I also would like to know what happens if you "disobey" him. Based on reading what you wrote, he sounds controlling, disrespectful and manipulative. Red flag!!! Not a good situation at all. How long have you been in this relationship? Was he always like this?

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    It would really help to have a lot more background information as no-one has a clue what is going on by just 15 words.

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    Originally Posted by LynnetteVP
    Everything I do has to include my boyfriend.. if he doesn't approve. I can't participate.
    This can only be true if you agree to it. If a BF would dump me for doing what I want, then that would spare me the need to dump him.

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