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Thread: I'm being bullied

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    I'm being bullied

    Being bullied on the abuse and violence forum ,I wrote my situation down so I could have support understanding , a few replies were nice but some misquoted ,I explained my very insensitive partner ,I needed his help once over needing help over printing skin cancer information as I didn't have a printer and how important it was to have this information for the dr and how insensitive he was to interfere allergy attack s I said he mocks me and how I don't have a lot of money i n income and no where to easy go . They had suggested I go to a refuge in a p previous post. I got accused of manipulating the system to get a hostel which I wasn't ,only to ask how to define abuse so the authorities could help me so I could describe my situation to them ,and one poster said that allergies don't just happen, but they did to me after mould exposure ,he said it was impossible, one said my partner had got tired of being a crutch for me I said in previous posts I tried not to tell him about my problems.

    I said I went to a hotel to get away for one night they said if I could do that then could afford to move out this is not true as it was one night ,this doesn't take on to account on going living costs deposits for room food and stuff.
    One said about me dismissing what they said even though it was incorrect the accusations.and saying about mould at my mother's house I said it wasn't true ,id said the mould was in our previous house with my partner.
    It was mentioned about not going to Dr for allergies but I said I was wanting for a opponent next week ,it was mentioned I self diagnosed but allergies were confirmed by an allergy specialist. Then when I said the facts weren't true about what they said one accused me of changing by story because they said things I disagreed with what they said this wasn't true I was setting the record straight about what happened. Those responses are upsetting insensitive and were inaccurate to the situation. They did not listen to my explanations.

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    You aren't being bullied, people just have different opinions about what your real issues are. Everyone who is commenting is doing so with the hope to help you. This is an advice forum. You are going to get advice. You aren't going to agree with all of it.

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    I advised you to contact Citizens Advice for help on your benefits and getting somewhere else to live. Spend time doing that or other practical ways to get out of your situation rather than starting new threads about it.

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    I wasn't comfortable responding in the thread because I didn't understand what you were saying. I'm sorry you felt bullied. I hope you continue to feel welcome on the forum and avoid comments or responses that are not helpful or respectful to you.

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    Is isn't helping me at all its making me feel worst and to me it is bullying discounting what I'm going through, how can someone who doesn't know me claim to know the situation I was there ,the details they got wasn't correct it was wrong, it made me feel worse .accusations made about me that I know wasn't true . It's supposed to give advice but not make other person feel worse and then they try to explain then not listen and accuse me of just twisting stuff when I tried to explain what happened ,this isn't advice it's just plain picking on someone ,it's wrong and morally wrong too. There should be more understanding.this is bullying to me .

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    No one can really know your situation so I'd take things with a grain of salt. When you post something online, you'll be judged no matter what. I agree with you that delivery is important. Some are better at it than others and sometimes people don't deliver in their usual ways either (myself included). If you are unhappy or feel that some of the comments were unnecessarily rude, you can use the report button at the bottom of that specific post and report it to the moderators.

    I'd say let this go for now as you don't want the material of your threads to be reported themselves as unnecessary or nitpicky. I understand you're upset right now and you've gotten your point across. Read through the forum rules in the bars at the top and familiarize yourself with them. If you have any concerns speak directly to the moderators. Any complaints regarding the site should be discussed with the administrators or moderators. It's not a good idea to start threads about these topics.

    Rest at ease and just know that this is a safe place still. You are welcome here and I hope you feel better soon.

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    Your doctor doesn't need a computer print out about skin cancer - the doctor has a medical degree and doesn't need to look on WebMD.Bottom line, you need to help yourself - detailing everything the boyfriend says does not help you in the long run.

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    Moonlight37...Please utilize the "contact us" feature at the bottom of the page. We don't address personal/private matters on the public forum.

    Thank you.


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