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Thread: Advice needed. He wanted a break, is this an excuse?

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    A break after just months? You've got to be kidding.....
    On top of that you have jealousy, fights, controlling behaviors.....vacation and other women.....
    Do you really need us to tell you to drop this guy like a hot rock?

    My guess is that you got lost in the whirlwind, intense attention, way too much time spend together, high pace, high pressure vortex and feel like this is way more of a relationship than it actually is. Reality is at five months, you should still be dating, enjoying getting to know each other and only have eyes for each other. This isn't it. It's a hot dramatic mess. Walk away, OP, and don't look back and learn from this - don't get swept up with this kind of behavior. It never ends well. It's not what love and caring look like, not what healthy basic dating looks like either.

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    He wanted a break, is this an excuse?
    An excuse is something people use to hide a real reason. But what could be more straightforward than saying he's not feeling it anymore?

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    I should have been clearer. I meant an excuse for a break so he can mess around.

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    You are very right. Thank you.

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    To answer your question.. Yes.

    It is over, but he wants to keep you around incase it doesn't work with other girls. If you want to be the #2 or #3 choice, then by all means, stay in his life. If you want someone to like you and have you be their #1 priority, then let this guy go. Its really pretty simple.

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    This is going to lead to a complete break-up, OP.

    At just 5 months, the sparks have already died and I think being on holiday made him realize he still wants to see what else is out there.

    Sorry, girl. I would preserve your dignity and walk away now.

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    That's what happens in life - different places and situations make us understand what we really want in life.
    Sounds to me that it's over, now you have experience and that's a good thing.
    Good luck!

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    Pretty much nailed it I’d say. I am just really struggling right now.

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    I do agree. He just made it so much more confusing by going I still really like you! I wish he had never said that so I can just move on quicker. Which I will be doing, anyway

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    Originally Posted by Chloej123
    I do agree. He just made it so much more confusing by going I still really like you! I wish he had never said that so I can just move on quicker. Which I will be doing, anyway
    A lot of dumpers say this, thinking it will somehow make the situation less painful for their exes. If he still really liked you, he wouldn't be telling the spark is dead and he needs a break.

    He might like you as a person, yes, but his investment in the relationship is gone. It was also not a good sign if he was a very jealous to the point of causing fights about it. An ex of mine was a very jealous man and it turned out he was the one misbehaving when my head was turned. Funny how that works!

    With time, you will probably see this wasn't a great match for you.

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