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    Are you already living together or do you stay at his home every night? Or does he stay at yours?

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    If he's not having sex with you but watching porn, he's probably a porn addict. He needs counseling or a program to get off that stuff.

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    Porn strikes again!

    Case in point. He needs meds to get a boner to have sex with a real life woman but can get himself off watching porn with out pills.

    At this point in the relationship you should still be at each other like bunnies.

    How old are you two?

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    Well...I mean you are at a point where you need to make some hard decisions outside of "I like him". Does this kind of a lack of sex life work for you? If yes, then carry on and stop worrying about what he is doing with porn watching. If not, then time to drop this guy and find a new guy who is more active in the bedroom.

    It's a case of what you are seeing is what you are getting. He isn't going to change and you aren't going to nag him into having a different libido. Don't make the mistake of making this about yourself, your looks, your body, etc. It's not about that. If he wasn't attracted to you, he has no reason to be with you. There is no upside to being in a relationship with someone you aren't attracted to. He is attracted, but this is all he has to offer. You have to decide if this is enough for you or not and act accordingly.

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    Are you living with this guy?

    Is is so early. Your sex life will only get worse. Find someone else.

    This has nothing to do with YOU!

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    Originally Posted by lostandhurt
    Porn strikes again!

    Case in point. He needs meds to get a boner to have sex with a real life woman but can get himself off watching porn with out pills.

    At this point in the relationship you should still be at each other like bunnies.

    How old are you two?

    Lost
    This.

    Nothing wrong with watching porn, nothing wrong with taking pills to improve sex life. Both can be a whole lot of fun, both can coexist harmoniously! But if someone is able to "perform" just fine while watching porn but struggles when faced with a living, breathing woman, and if someone is more comfortable having regular sex with their hand than with a person—well, some wires have gotten crossed and clogged.

    This isn't about the shape of your body, but about him. At 5 months I wouldn't even bother going down some diagnostic track, but simply accepting (or not) that this is who he is sexually. This is the kind of sex life he prefers. If it's not enough for you—which I don't think it is, or should be—I'd consider letting this go so you can match with someone who pleases you with his hands and body as often, if not more, than he pleases himself.

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    OP, why didn't you move on from this guy before you got attached?

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    Originally Posted by User33765419
    Yes u do and I don't need to explain why I like him
    Do explain or don’t the choice is yours but I am curious as to why you like someone that you feel neglects your physical needs, doesn’t appreciate your appearance and watches porn every single night. After only 5 months he is down to needing meds to stay hard with you? That isn’t a good sign and will only get worse.

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    Originally Posted by maew
    Do explain or don’t the choice is yours but I am curious as to why you like someone that you feel neglects your physical needs, doesn’t appreciate your appearance and watches porn every single night. After only 5 months he is down to needing meds to stay hard with you? That isn’t a good sign and will only get worse.
    Why has this been acceptable ,OP?

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