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Thread: Does this message seem "punishing" ?

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    You didn't need to reply to his message at all (imo). Your reply was totally unnecessary, long-winded and filled with drama which makes you come across as pathetic and desperate. Just go NC and stay NC.

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    You're trying all these tactics to try to get him re-interested in you. It looks really obvious.

    These tactics do not make you look attractive to him, but rather the opposite.

    Hopefully you intend to move on from this.

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    Originally Posted by PJM
    (We can talk but on a professional level. Advice is always okĒ ) This was from my now ex ( we work together) to which my reply was :

    ....You know I have been thinking about the damage I have caused and your supervisors advice to stay away and be professional. I think itís best for me not to approach you for any advice too ... that way it will be only professional . And I will stay out of your way completely. Hopefully I can find some thing else and you donít have to see me any more . Hopefully that happens soon . Than you can work in peace . Just praying for that--

    I can always get advice from some where else . I have faith that divine will send the information when I need it . Have lived on that faith .
    Punishing = no. Passive-aggressive martyrdom ("a display of feigned or exaggerated suffering to obtain sympathy or admiration") = yes.

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    Originally Posted by PJM
    Hello , I did not send this message today . It was a week ago. I am ď LEAVING HIM ALONE ď right now . Itís been over a week . Thanks for the reply any way .
    Wait, why would you be asking advice over something you did over a week ago?

    NC for a week and youíre asking is to help you obsess over an email you sent?

    Nooooo.

    Stop.

    Leave.it.alone.

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    I think that you should focus on your job and divorce, and forget about the player.

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    I think that you should focus on your job and divorce, and forget about the player.
    Yes that is what I have decided. Thank you for responding.

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    Why did a supervisor get involved?

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