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Thread: Should I date a guy with a criminal and chemical dependency record?

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    I read your post from 2014 so you have been in a relationship with a guy that isn't a criminal, although that guy was emotionally unavailable.

    I hope you always remember you have value and you should never de-value yourself for anyone.

    To answer your question: NO you should not date a guy like that!!!

    Being alone is better than getting sucked into that mess. That guy shouldn't even be dating until he gets his life straightened out.

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    Beware. Unstable people are con artists and always on the hunt for their next victim. They're predators always looking for prey. Don't be a fool. They're charming and pretentious. Never bite the bait otherwise you will be sorry. They'll entrap you. Never get involved and stay far, far, far away. Escape, flee and do whatever it takes. Sever all contacts permanently.

    Also predators always look for the mentally weak. Don't make yourself vulnerable to their scheming ways. They'll drain you financially.

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    he has a lengthy criminal record. Some on there I knew about, DUIs, treatment, drug problems in the past with Meth. There were also charges of domestic violence, stalking, and disobeying orders.
    Remember when you had to remember an arithmetic formula? Your first thought about something is most likely the closest to the correct one.

    If when you found out this information, your first reaction was to walk away, then you should do that.

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    These are excellent points. If you have the tendency to being an adrenaline junkie, it's better to finds sports, hobbies or other things that have some pay-off or value. A return on your investment and at least a decent risk v benefit ratio.

    Something that is at least adventurous or fun or interesting. That's a better deal than all risk and zero benefit.

    This guy is more like the habit of cutting oneself. It's just a way to alleviate pain, numbness and feel something, anything, but at quite a cost.
    Originally Posted by lostandhurt
    I read your post from 2014 so you have been in a relationship with a guy that isn't a criminal, although that guy was emotionally unavailable.
    I hope you always remember you have value and you should never de-value yourself for anyone.
    To answer your question: NO you should not date a guy like that!!!
    Being alone is better than getting sucked into that mess. That guy shouldn't even be dating until he gets his life straightened out.
    Lost

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    The guy has not established enough stability to be dating material, much less relationship material. The point of dating is to screen OUT bad matches, not to become their taxi driver and social worker. I'd run, not walk away--and there is no way I'd stay in contact with him. If you continue to do so, you'll learn WHY that's a lousy idea soon enough.

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