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Thread: Getting Walked on By an Aggressive Panhandler

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    Originally Posted by JayR
    Guy came up to me out of nowhere and was standing right there next to me. That alone kinda scared me. Plus, yeah in all honesty, I didn't want a physical altercation, especially over a $2 can of beer. That or the possibility of losing a fight, winning one but still getting wounded or just being arrested for being in one, especially with a (near) senior citizen? I dunno.
    And I was in a rush to get home. I was already running errands for my Dad, which was why I was out there anyway. Oddly enough I ran into two very long lights, like fate wanted me to really mull over the situation.
    If you were inside a store, its not like its midnight at a bus stop with no one around. How would a fight at a grocery store reasonably occur? Just say "dude, i am underaged and can't buy" as a joke to lighten the situation and leave

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    Forgive yourself for giving 2$ to a cause you didn't find worthy. It's not a big deal. Resolve to handle a similar situation differently if it were to come up due to your own moral code.

    No one follows their own code perfectly.

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    Originally Posted by mustlovedogs
    And no crimes are ever committed in front of people... and no, you NEVER freeze...
    I saw a man attack his wife and two little girls in the middle of a crowded IKEA.

    WHOLE STORE FROZE as he screamed in their faces and the little girls sank to the floor sobbing.

    It was horrifying. Especially the part where we all froze.

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    Originally Posted by Jibralta
    I saw a man attack his wife and two little girls in the middle of a crowded IKEA.

    WHOLE STORE FROZE as he screamed in their faces and the little girls sank to the floor sobbing.

    It was horrifying. Especially the part where we all froze.
    Exactly!

    Holly, I NEVER said I would give a man my money in that situation. I was saying we need to give OP a break, because itís hard to react when an unexpected situation pops up. And if youíre concerned for safety, whatís $2?

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    Growing up I was part of a rich family, got straight As until the culture shock was too much for me in a quasi catholic highschool where the priest was a standing joke.

    Smoked pot with some real lose friends, life was never the same again. Dropped out of college after a year of 0.0 to save dad some money. Got a job. Got diagnosed with schitziophrenia. Ended up in a complex with people who were taken straight off the streets in a humanitarian effort.

    I learned their struggle and their humor.

    If that guy wanted beer and said, you bought that for me didn't you, he was punking you. He didn't need that beer. He thought you were a chump or he was just testing to see if he could get something free. Because it was only beer, you could have just flicked him off and told him to get a job. He probably would have laughed.

    Because this was beer, there's really nothing serious on either side.

    You have the right to call the store manager, if you're mad or worried you can do that. The store manager will either increase security in the store in a serious way, or he'll just assure you it won't happen again and sip some coffee when you hang up. No harm done either way.

    Just know others behavior is completely out of your control and in this soft democratic society we've got to put up with a lot of junk from anyone who wants to give out junk.

    It actually might be the town. If you dont like it there return to the last happiest place. That's what I did, and I'm so much happier.

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    Many are suffering from a mental illness due to a drug addiction.
    And many of those suffering drug addiction is due to childhood trauma that was never dealt with correctly.

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    You're beating yourself up over this situation? I encounter a pan handler at least once a day, sometimes, I'm able to, I help them out. But if I was to say yes to every stranger that asks for a buck, I'd be giving away at least 3 dollars everyday.
    So, I've just learned to say no, and I wish someone would intimdate me into giving them something I dont even owe them.
    Don't dwell on this, see this as your good deed of the day but in the future you must learn to say no & not let anyone intimidate you.
    It sounds like he was testing your boundaries with the "You got this right?"

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    meh... it was a beer. THink of it as you giving him a little bright spot in his day and move on. Next time, simply say "no."

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    Originally Posted by loyal
    meh... it was a beer. THink of it as you giving him a little bright spot in his day and move on. Next time, simply say "no."
    please stop bumping inactive threads

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