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Thread: Why are so many men on the date sites foreign nationals?

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    I would make sure you’re searching locally and only exchange one or two messages before a phone call. Call the person from a blocked number and make sure what they are saying is consistent with the profile. If they’re not available to meet ASAP and it’s not for a typical reason like vacation or a business trip or it sounds odd then move on to the next.

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    Just to let know you this site has members from all over the world and racism isn’t tolerated here.
    This isn’t racism. Race was not mentioned in her post at all. This is about potential scammers possibly using American women for citizenship. And I can personally contest to this as someone who has married a non-US Native.

    OP I would be careful. Look for another dating website.

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    There are tons of Nigerian scammers on dating sites. The first thing you have to ask is, "Where are you from? If they say it's on the profile, meaning they think where they live is where they are from, it means they don't speak-a-da English and are a scammer. You block them and talk to the next guy.

    Talk for a few days then get a phone number, make a call, and set up a time to meet if they have a North American accent. If you can't meet up within a couple weeks, drop them and talk to another man.

    You have to weed out the scammers quickly. Part of smart dating is efficiency.

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    Again cultural reference needs to be understood .

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    Dating site scamming is rampant for one reason: Because it works.

    People lose their life savings to these scammers. If people would stop sending money, the scamming would stop.

    And yes, they particularly go after women over 50 (I’m one), because they assume that they are lonely, but likely got money from their divorce, or via their job. And guess what....these are the women who end up sending the most money, so they have an unending supply of profiles.

    There is nothing you should do in your profile, unless you want to lie and say you’re 25. They simply put in >50 + female, and voila....thousands of profiles from which to choose.

    Recognize these scammer profiles sooner. Since they largely come from Nigeria (it’s a fact, not a criticism of that country), you can spot the spelling and grammatical errors, as well as style errors, immediately.

    They always talk about how they want to find their true soulmate, their one true love, and often, they appear as “widowed”, because they think it makes them appear vulnerable to their target.

    As others have said, if someone doesn’t want to meet you after 2-3 times of texting or calling, block and move on.

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    A scammer/catfish can be in your own country and speak your language quite fluently. Not related to culture at all. Also a person who's foreign or has an accent may be a sincere online dater. It's too simplistic to claim that culture plays any role whatsoever. It's a blind spot to think nationality, culture and language make any difference.

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    A scammer/catfish can be in your own country and speak your language quite fluently. Not related to culture at all. Also a person who's foreign or has an accent may be a sincere online dater. It's too simplistic to claim that culture plays any role whatsoever. It's a blind spot to think nationality, culture and language make any difference.
    Not what I am talking about.

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    Again cultural reference needs to be understood .
    Discrimination and bigotry? Possibly Yes. But it’s not racism. The OP never said she was against people based on skin color. Huge difference.

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