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Thread: My fiancÚ uses porn even when I ask for sex that day

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    Hi hollyj. You're right I shouldn't, I feel like I'm begging for it, sometimes even asking him doesn't seem to phase him and he always has a prepared excuse.

    I don't think he does but he has been using it since 13. He is now 28 but has a real life person in front of him who asks for it. Thats what I don't get as he still relies on porn, and I'm secondary to it. Thats what I don't understand.

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    You're right JenCrowley, that exactly sums it up for me. I told him in the context of me asking, that watching porn instead of giving me an excuse hurts me. Makes me feel unwanted and somewhat unattractive, not enough for him. He said I was none of those things and the cycle starts again. I want to break the cycle but don't know how.

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    Intimately and emotionally, that's spot on @Chelsea54
    I have never been engaged to someone before and he only asked me a year ago.

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    Originally Posted by Anonym0usly
    I want to break the cycle but don't know how.
    . You are making him responsible for your feelings, hurt, insecurity, etc. Guilt tripping is Never sexy. Stop it. Stop begging. Stop nagging. Stop policing. Stop controlling. Get out of the house and start getting more elusive, mysterious and interesting.

    Stop doing this:
    Originally Posted by Anonym0usly
    I told him in the context of me asking, that watching porn instead of giving me an excuse hurts me. Makes me feel unwanted and somewhat unattractive, not enough for him.

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    Porn addiction, and he probably has some issues, maybe Ed. He also may not be in love with you or attracted to you anymore (if he ever was).

    My ex had the same issues with a previous boyfriend - he was addicted to porn, but would not touch her, refused to even try Viagra. She eventually broke up with him. I didn't have any problem like that, our sex life was great.

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